I’ve had very few friends in my life who have stuck with me. Not one to make friends easily in the first place–I make great acquaintances–there have been not many to count on to stick with me anyway.
When I was little I had a couple of friends, then in my teenage years there were three or four of us mostly, maybe six in total. Two of those six I still speak to occasionally – my best friend John who I met when we were 17 and my friend Joe. One thing that’s remained constant in my life – I don’t make friends with women very easily. I imagine I’m not “girly” enough.
As for imaginary friends, I’m not sure if I even did those right. I’ve never had “friends” I was able to talk to… no, my imaginary friends are characters I live vicariously through. Right from childhood up until now I’ve been able to sit and create worlds, populate them with interesting people with fabulous lives, and spend time there sometimes going over and over the same scenes for hours on end. I wonder if all writers of fiction do this.
Now I have John, Joe who I text to once in a while, and my neighbour with whom I have coffee once in a blue moon. (She keeps asking me to go, bless her, even though so often I’m not able.) And I have all of you, my faraway friends on the internet. It would be interesting to meet you all in person, and see if any of you “stick.”
This post is part of SoCS: https://lindaghill.com/2015/02/27/special-edition-friday-prompt-for-socs-february-2815/
and Love Is In Da Blog: https://justfoolingaroundwithbee.wordpress.com/2015/02/22/love-is-in-da-blog-february-ping-back-post-rulessuggestions-week-4/
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March 2, 2015 at 1:22 am
When I was younger, I had a lot of friends. As I’ve aged, I’ve winnowed down the number and revel in the few true, sticky friends (along with a couple of new ones who have great potential – like fine maple syrup). Thanks for writing this – so glad I found your blog!
~Audrey
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March 2, 2015 at 12:53 pm
Thank you for the follow, Audrey! 🙂 I like your maple syrup analogy – very… sweet! 😀
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March 1, 2015 at 1:08 pm
The question of online friends is so interesting. There are some people I’ve met online with whom I interact more frequently – sometimes even more deeply – than those that I know “in real life.”
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March 2, 2015 at 12:50 pm
That’s true for me too, Joanne. Interesting indeed. 🙂
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March 1, 2015 at 9:18 am
Nice post. I for one enjoy being “friends” with you.
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March 2, 2015 at 12:21 pm
Thanks, John. 🙂 I enjoy your friendship as well. 😀
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March 1, 2015 at 5:05 am
Happy Birthday SoCS 🙂 And thank you Linda for giving such a lovely platform to explore our blogging capacities and meet such a lovely, inspiring community!
As per your post, I have noticed that nowadays most women have more male friends than women – much easier to connect and get along. This has inspired me to take an “informal study”
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March 2, 2015 at 12:17 pm
Cool! I love informal studies. 🙂 Thanks very much, Prajakta. 🙂 I look forward to having you around ’til the next anniversary! 😀
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February 28, 2015 at 11:46 pm
Would definitely love to meet you if I ever come to Canada or if you visit India 🙂
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March 2, 2015 at 12:07 pm
That would be wonderful! 😀
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February 28, 2015 at 6:37 pm
I’m the same exact way with friends! I have more guy friends than girl friends, and very few actual friends that have stuck. There are people I’ve known for awhile and who I’ll see every once in awhile who I call friends, and then all of the friends I’ve made on the internet.
I’m also the same way with writing and my characters, by the way. You’re not alone with that lol.
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February 28, 2015 at 6:39 pm
Ah good! I’m glad I’m not the only one. 🙂 And as you said in your post, friends are defined in many different ways, but the true ones never change. 🙂 Thanks for your comment, Brittney. 😀
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February 28, 2015 at 6:23 pm
Until I read your post this morning I had nothing for this prompt. Then something struck me and stuck…..so you have inspired me Linda to write, admittedly a fun write but writing all the same.
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February 28, 2015 at 6:24 pm
Always happy to inspire, Michael! 😀 I look forward to reading your post!
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February 28, 2015 at 6:25 pm
I hope you feel chuffed by my claim, I know I would….
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February 28, 2015 at 6:29 pm
I am indeed chuffed. 😀
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February 28, 2015 at 5:43 pm
I wish we could do a WordPress meetup…! But, like you said in terms of not even being able to meet your neighbor for coffee, often the challenges of time/locations makes it hard to make new friends or see old ones. I’m trying to work on that about myself, but it’s tricky…thank God for sticky friends as you wrote about. 🙂
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February 28, 2015 at 6:32 pm
Ah, wouldn’t that be great? An annual WP meetup weekend, no computers allowed! Haha! Yes, thank God for friends who stick around, even when you can’t. 🙂
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February 28, 2015 at 5:14 pm
I think we’d stick. I have many life-long friends. I’m the least girly of the girls, but I don’t think about it much anymore.
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February 28, 2015 at 6:35 pm
The “girly” thing does tend to fade with age and motherhood, doesn’t it? I think we’d stick too – we have a lot in common. 🙂
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February 28, 2015 at 4:52 pm
I just went to a funeral of a childhood friend’s younger. I hadn’t seen my friend in a few years. Before that, another funeral brought ‘out of touch friends’ together. I don’t like those kind of reunions. This year is new, I want to do better. I want to be a sticky friend. Great post.
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February 28, 2015 at 6:42 pm
Here’s to a wonderful year! 😀 Thanks so much!
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February 28, 2015 at 4:41 pm
I love this post and definitely relate! Maybe I’m not “girly” enough either. I love your title, “sticky friends” and your statement, “I make great acquaintances.” I feel that way quite often! In any case, you are always welcome in Colorado!
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February 28, 2015 at 6:45 pm
Thank you so much, Kelli! 😀
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February 28, 2015 at 4:25 pm
I can relate. I had a good high school friend, but since adulthood…not too many. I’m surprised at your post…you have sooo many friends online. I bet they’d all stick if you lived closer. Come here! No, I don’t thik you’d want to come to NJ! Nobody does.
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February 28, 2015 at 6:48 pm
Haha! I’ve been to New Jersey and I kinda liked it, actually. 🙂 I do appreciate my online friends – almost feels like I’m getting out of the house. 😀 Thanks so much for your comment, Leigh. 🙂
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February 28, 2015 at 4:01 pm
Great post Linda 😉 You are also very welcome here in Spain, if you get the chance one day, I think we can stick together. I haven’t been girly either, so know this with male friends.
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February 28, 2015 at 6:53 pm
Thank you, Irene! 🙂 I think there’s a good chance we’d stick too!
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February 28, 2015 at 3:54 pm
Wow, that was an impressive way to fit in all my prompts of this week. Well, if you ever come to Great Britain you are very welcome to stay with us and find out if we could stick 🙂
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February 28, 2015 at 7:01 pm
Thanks so much, Bee! 🙂 I do think we just might at that. 😀
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March 1, 2015 at 1:38 pm
Brilliant ~ all I hoped for 🙂
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February 28, 2015 at 3:40 pm
I think of you as a friend!!
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February 28, 2015 at 7:04 pm
And I think of you as a friend too, Willow! 😀 Thank you!
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February 28, 2015 at 7:52 pm
🙂
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February 28, 2015 at 3:27 pm
The feeling is mutual.
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February 28, 2015 at 8:46 pm
Thank you, Pamela! 🙂 And maybe we will meet one day – you’re not that far away! 😀
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March 1, 2015 at 7:11 am
Anytime my friend, anytime.
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February 28, 2015 at 3:17 pm
so many obstacles keep us social beings apart!
may you feel befriended & supported
by one nearby & like-minded 🙂
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February 28, 2015 at 8:51 pm
Thank you for your encouragement. 😀
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