My eldest son, who lives in the basement, is my constant source of support when his brother acts up. Which is a wonderful thing, or will be until–as he pointed out yesterday–it isn’t. I can’t and don’t expect him to live here forever. Yesterday as I was battling with Alex over one of his regular behavioral issues, my son said point blank that if I don’t stop giving in to Alex, he’s going to walk all over me when my support moves out.
So this morning I decided to battle it out alone. I got yelled at and punched (he’s seventeen, but only the size of a ten year old; his little knuckles are bony, damn it!), but I managed to get him to calm down and behave himself. I have to do this. Otherwise, I won’t be fine.
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March 4, 2018 at 12:35 am
I’m trying to think of something helpful to say, but I don’t think there is anything. Other than to encourage you to continue to share your emotions on this. I think it’s really healthy and beneficial for you to express yourself here. I hear you, Linda…you WILL be fine, we both know this. xo
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March 4, 2018 at 12:14 am
I salute you and your strong ways. 💜 Much love and hugs to you!
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March 3, 2018 at 11:38 pm
Far from fine. But shows you will make it. Hugs as you go through this.
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March 3, 2018 at 9:50 pm
I like the wisdom of your oldest son. I’ve had some experience with my grand daughter’s serious behavioral issues which can be exhausting. My son is making progress by being firmer with her – not letting her get away with stuff. It’s good that you’re making these moves while you’re still young. I seems to be already paying off. Hang in there!
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March 3, 2018 at 9:09 pm
Hugs to you!
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March 3, 2018 at 7:32 pm
Definitely difficult to set limits with kids that have difficulty controlling their behavior because of special needs. My hat is off to you because I can imagine how hard it is. In the long run it is good to teach your son better ways to cope or express frustration. I saw the comment about online or outside support for parents and I think that would be important in having support for you and getting tips on managing behaviors.
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March 3, 2018 at 7:21 pm
That’s a hard one to click Like on. 😦
You’re amazing. You really are. I hope finer days are coming.
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March 3, 2018 at 6:41 pm
😢💗
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March 3, 2018 at 4:10 pm
Definitely hard to comment when I haven’t walked in your shoes. I hope that winning this battle will give you strength for future situations and that the support of your online network helps if only a little.
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March 3, 2018 at 2:23 pm
I think we all agree that it is (sounds like) a tough situation. I don’t know what to say and I don’t want to sound placating. I am sure you are doing the best you can with what you know and have to work with. I hope you feel some support from your online community.
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March 3, 2018 at 2:04 pm
I agree with Willow and Dan – very hard to read this post. But you’ll manage, Linda. I have complete faith in your ability to continue to care for your son.
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March 3, 2018 at 2:01 pm
I agree with Willow, this is hard to read. I’m glad you past the issue for now.
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March 3, 2018 at 1:16 pm
Never easy when there are multiple battles going on within all parties involved. Your strength is admirable.
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March 3, 2018 at 12:31 pm
Yes, hard to ‘like’. My heart goes out to you. I have a friend with an adult severely autistic man/child. He is in a great group home however I believe its funding through First Nations. I can’t imagine the heartache and worry.
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March 3, 2018 at 12:15 pm
Bless you Linda. It’s such a tough situation to be in. But you are are. You will be his support and you will be fine. 🙂
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March 3, 2018 at 12:10 pm
This is so hard to read Linda, I only clicked the like to show support. You are a great mother. It is almost impossible to reason with someone who does not want to be reasonable. Your eldest son is right and he will leave as is the way of sons, leave you with the other two boys. Well you have proved you cope and will cope. Each situation you encounter now will strengthen you. 💜💜💜🍀
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