She spat out her apology like phlegm, only to feel her unrepentant anger build to new and distasteful heights.
Writing this sentence has brought to mind how I feel about the questionable wisdom that by forgiving someone of a wrong done to us, we are freeing ourselves rather than the other person. I suppose it depends on whether or not we can believe we are truly forgiving.
The other popular adage is “forgive and forget.” Sometimes forgetting is much easier on the soul than forgiving. But does it teach us anything?
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June 1, 2016 at 8:21 pm
I think we’re freeing ourselves by forgiving, but by no means forgetting. 🙂
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June 1, 2016 at 8:42 pm
You think so? For me it’s the remembrance that hurts the most. Kind of like when you do something embarrassing and get embarrassed again every time you think about it. 😛
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June 2, 2016 at 10:33 am
We are freeing ourselves by forgiving and by doing so, the wrongdoer has to deal with her own repercussions. If we don’t let go it becomes toxic in our systems. But I don’t think human nature allows us to forget. It becomes like a secretly buried black mark in our memories, but that doesn’t mean our hearts can’t forgive.
This is my thought about forgiveness. I’ve had plenty of practice thinking about it. Hence, I’m writing a sequel to my first book, about forgiving. 🙂
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June 3, 2016 at 10:41 am
I appreciate your insight, Debby, especially knowing what you’ve been through. I look forward to reading your books. I imagine writing about it gives an ounce or two of release… I may get there one day.
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June 4, 2016 at 10:52 am
Thanks Linda. I can honestly say by writing, although very painful, it helps to put things in perspective. If you’d asked me years ago about my mother, I’d have said I could never forgive her. Life has a way of opening up our hearts and perspectives over time. 🙂
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June 4, 2016 at 11:48 am
I can’t begin to tell you how encouraging this is. Thanks, Debby. 🙂
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June 4, 2016 at 7:26 pm
I’m glad if I’ve enlightened you Linda. There’s always light at the end of the tunnel. 🙂
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June 1, 2016 at 1:54 am
Sometimes, sorry is snot the hardest word.
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June 1, 2016 at 9:13 am
Oooooh!! Where’s my high hat when I need it?
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June 1, 2016 at 1:37 am
Awesome sentence… I can actually think of a couple of times when I felt somewhat the same (although the apology wasn’t spat) even as an adult 😉. Thank you for contributing.
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June 1, 2016 at 9:10 am
You’re welcome, my dear. And thank you for the prompt! 🙂
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May 31, 2016 at 6:26 pm
Perhaps a phlegmy apology isn’t sincere to begin with — like a child told to say, “Sorry.” They do, but it means nothing. I’m with you on the questionable wisdom.
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May 31, 2016 at 8:20 pm
Hehe. Yeah, with kids it’s often, “I’m sorry I’m in trouble and I’ll say anything to get out of it.”
Thanks for commenting, Sue. 🙂
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May 31, 2016 at 6:20 pm
Ahhh, one of the great mysteries of the human condition. Truly Linda forgiving is the key to peace in the soul. And it is a self actualizing act – you do it for you / for your fulfillment. It may not be easy but it sure is forceful.
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May 31, 2016 at 8:19 pm
It’s really not easy in some cases. Thanks for weighing in, Paul. 🙂
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May 31, 2016 at 5:06 pm
I tend to like “forgive and move on” but not necessarily forget.
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May 31, 2016 at 8:18 pm
Moving on is always good. 🙂
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May 31, 2016 at 4:42 pm
Excellent title.
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May 31, 2016 at 8:16 pm
Thank you, Erica. 🙂
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May 31, 2016 at 4:21 pm
She can keep that Apology 😉
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May 31, 2016 at 8:16 pm
Right? 🙂 😉
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