Linda G. Hill

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SoCS – Opposing Feelings

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I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s much easier to lean towards negative emotions when I’m sick than positive ones. Frustration, fed-upness, anger, even depression make themselves known more readily than calm and contentedness. And yet it’s in my nature to be positive. So I’m even more at odds with myself. Balance is lost – tipped in the wrong direction for me – and so everything is “off.”

My eyes seem to be better today. I won’t spend as much time as I usually do online; I’m afraid my eyesight troubles will come back. But I’m finally getting Alex’s cold now. The sore throat… no, not even. Just tickly. I’m trying not to start coughing lest I not be able to stop.

One thing I am happy about – I got tickets to see Rush in concert in Montreal in June. That’ll be fun. Something to look forward to – and I shouldn’t still be sick by then. Maybe even my shoulder will be better.

See what I mean?

I do suppose it makes sense, to concentrate on the negative when you’re sick. If it doesn’t hurt, you don’t think about it. Until I mention it, for instance, you’re probably not thinking about your teeth. So why should it be any different with emotions? In order to realize I’m content, I must think about the fact. If I’m angry, I know it. If I’m ecstatic, I’m probably concentrating more on what is making me so than the actual feeling. It’s all about mindfulness.

How do you feel? And how often do you feel what you feel?

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46 thoughts on “SoCS – Opposing Feelings

  1. I hope that you feel better soon, and kick that cold into touch, I don’t like colds.

    How do you feel? And how often do you feel what you feel? Well there is a big question. I feel weary, old, tired, failing apart, 80 years old, losing the battle, achey, broken, rushing towards inevitability and wasted… that is most days, and they are the good days.

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  2. Good points! I do hope you are feeling better. Glad your eyesight is coming back.

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  3. I hope you’re feeling better Linda.
    It is harder to focus on the positive when one’s sick. Energy levels are low and everything takes an effort. What’s joyful about it?
    What you say, I used with my employees. It’s easier to remember the one bad call in a day of 50 good conversations. You have to list all the good things as well otherwise it gets impossible. So yes that person was mean but you had x number of people who agreed to donate today. So the scales should tip towards the positive πŸ˜‰ . Not always easy.
    Again I hope you get better soon.

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  4. Get well soon hun..
    Thanks for the morning inspiration..
    #Bless you

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  5. Feel better soon,maybe this will make you feel better

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  6. Feel better soon, Linda. It is supposed to be a balmy minus 7 tomorrow with sunshine!!! I shout with tongue in cheek. On the flip side, you are going to see RUSH!! woo hoo!! Maybe we could meet before or after for a glass of vino or walk up past RenΓ© Levesque Blvd and I will treat you to my fav Irish bar, Hurley’s with love Celtic music 7 days a week.

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  7. When you are not feeling well its normal to feel terrible about everything, but I tend to think of what I’d rather be doing which always a positive as I don’t like being ill. Though there times when you just have to ride it out.
    Hope you are better soon Linda.

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  8. Thinking positively while not feeling well is for a saint not us mortals. Wish you sunshine.

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  9. I used to try to talk myself out of feeling my feelings. You don’t have to stay stuck in them but I think it is good to acknowledge how you feel. And yes when we are ill we are more likely to have bad feelings too. This too shall pass. Helps to do things that comfort you. Music, funny movies, tear jerkers too.

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    • Ah well, compared to being sick AND having to entertain the kids, being sick and alone is pure bliss, because I can do those things. Having said that, I’m not doing too bad at the moment. Hopefully I’ve kicked it.
      Thanks for your comment, Deborah. πŸ™‚

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        • What can you do, eh? πŸ˜›

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          • Be good to yourself as much as you can. And get a good babysitter. πŸ™‚

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            • Ha! I wish. It’s not easy finding a babysitter for a 19year old Autistic guy and a Deaf, g-tube fed 14 year old with behaviour issues. πŸ˜›

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              • I understand. Maybe a student teacher in Special Education or behavior therapy? Or a student nurse. I used to babysit when I was in Nursing school. Just ideas. Don’t know what resources are available to you. We have an agency here that provides respite for parents of children with special needs. So hard for you.

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              • The biggest problem is really finding someone who knows sign language. I had a Deaf teenager babysit for a while, but she wouldn’t have been able to deal with my son who isn’t Deaf and doesn’t know much sign. As far as respite goes, the money is available, it’s finding a warm body to take it. πŸ˜›

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              • It’s almost like you need 2 babysitters.

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              • Yep. Don’t have enough money for that though. πŸ˜›

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              • I hope you find a good one soon. ❀

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              • I remember when my son was about 2 1/2. He got an inflammation of one of his hips. The treatment was for him not to walk on it. Thank goodness for videos but it was pretty awful. It went on for over 2 months. I did not have any real help or relief. I used to walk all over with him in his stroller. Or take him to activities where he did not have to walk. I know it was only for 2 months. But by the end of it I was ready to be put away. My husband and I finally got to go out to dinner by ourselves. My husband sees an old friend with his mother and asks them to join us. I was about ready to flip out. I stood up in the middle of dinner and said I am sorry but I have to leave. I was so shaken up my husband gave me a glass of whiskey when we got home. I was so upset with him, out first night out alone in a couple of months. Then I went to my first mommy and me get together after my son was off restriction. My husband was watching him. The other moms said they were making a medal in my honor. πŸ™‚ I got home and found out that while my husband was watching my son fell off the top of a slide onto his head. He had to wake him up to check for concussion that night. Never a dull moment.

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              • Yep, it’s like that often, isn’t it? Just one thing after another. Sometimes it’s even tougher when it’s the kids who are unwell.

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  10. You hit the nail on the head – you need to be mindful. The more energy you give something, the more you feed it and the bigger it becomes; but I do have to say that when you’re sick, it is so much harder to be mindful. I tend to have serious depression when I’m sick and I haven’t found a way out of it, yet. I’m still learning. We all are, and that’s okay too. Hang in there, Linda. ❀

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  11. Send you more healing thoughts Linda and hope you will be better soon. Good post. Realax and heal.

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  12. I think we all get a bit sensitive when we’re ill. I am mellow today as I am in general.

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  13. brain & human behavioral research confirms this testimonial!
    yes, useful to intentionally practice accentuating the positive
    whether we like it or not πŸ™‚

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  14. As a person with anxiety disorder, it’s a constant battle to not think about how I feel. For instance, I can fall asleep with my glasses on, and then spend three days worried about why the back of my ear hurts. You know? Almost everything I feel is a matter of if it’s still bothering me in a week, I’ll see the doctor, because what isn’t specifically pain can be a challenge for me.
    Today, I feel great. I slept until almost nine. It was so nice to wake up to sunlight! I’ve been productive and I have energy left to spend πŸ™‚
    Still wishing you well!

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    • I guess there’s a huge difference between being aware of how you feel and being hypersensitive to how you’re feeling. But it’s good that you can just as easily recognize when you’re feeling great, right?
      Thanks very much for your kind wishes, Joey. My eyes are better – now just to nip this cold in the bud! I might just be on top of it after all. πŸ™‚

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