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SoCS – Attachments


Attachments can come in many forms. We can become attached to things; keepsakes, favourite things, things that we watch and enjoy listening to, there are too many things to mention. But I think the most unhealthy and possibly dangerous things we can become attached to are ideas.

When I sat down to write this I had to write this: first. I’m not sure if somewhere between the popularity of the tabloid and the mainstream inundation we have of celebrity news there has become an increase in the obsession people have for their favourite stars; I worry about the state of many people’s ideas of who these celebrities actually are, particularly young girls.

From the time of Puppy Love I’ve known what it is to “fall in love” with a singer. I’ve since recognized that it wasn’t actually love but infatuation. At the time I would pounce on anything Donny Osmond and soak it up. I’d stay home instead of going out with my friends in order to catch a single glimpse on TV. So what has changed?

The internet, for one. Being so much easier for people to find things–pictures, videos, interviews–of their favourite stars – is it feeding the obsession even more? The constant need for these stars to keep themselves in the limelight and give up more of their personal lives can’t be helping. And there breeds the dangerous, obsessive, possessive ideas in young girls’ (and even adults) minds that simply won’t go away. “He’s meant to be mine.” “We have a special connection.” It can seriously interfere with the healthy growth of a person. I know people who refuse real life relationships because they are waiting for their star to meet them and sweep them off their feet. And the pure inundation of media feeds it.

It’s not an isolated phenomenon. It’s widespread. It’s growing. And I wonder if there’s anything we can do about it. Somehow I doubt it.

I have to wonder too how the stars themselves cope with it. Fandom is nice, but the obsessive letters they must get have to be disconcerting. The paparazzi have proven dangerous and intrusive. It’s a wonder to me that anyone would want to be famous. But then I suppose they have their own attachments.


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Author: Linda G. Hill

There's a writer in here, clawing her way out.

7 thoughts on “SoCS – Attachments

  1. I remember feeling that way about Donny, and Shawn Cassidy and buying every copy of Teen Beat so I could stare at their pictures. Yours an interesting perspective. The consumption level of intellectual drivel is now immeasurable. The current generation of kids will NEVER know their own privacy and therefore never respect the privacy of others. I see a disturbing psychological trend in that. One simply needs to look at the public shaming facilitated by social media to see it.


    • Ah yes, Shawn Cassidy as well. It was Tiger Beat for me. Funny how nothing has changed and yet so much has. You bring up an excellent point about privacy – the landscape is littered with selfies, people doing everything and sharing it with the public. It’s become the norm for people to put themselves out there. I shudder to think what the world might be coming to.
      Thanks so much for your comment. 🙂

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  2. Sorry! I meant to say, the internet makes the distant seem real and obtainable; I had not thought about how it affects fans. Now I need to read your earlier post.


  3. Good points, Linda: the internet has made what is distant from u


  4. Very interesting questions Linda. I think that most of this are going on inside teenagers and stop when they grow up and get more mature.
    The dangerous must be when it doesn’t stop and become an attachment.


    • I’m finding it to be continuing well into the twenties for many of these girls. I put a lot of it down to the isolation from actual socialization (getting off the internet and going out with real life friends) that spurs most of it.
      Thanks for your comment, Irene. 🙂

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