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SoCS – Relatives

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I think, sometimes, about the fact that when my mother passes away I will have no relatives here in Canada other than the ones I made – my three kids. When I think about it I feel alone. I realize that should my eldest son ever have children, I will have more relatives. The other two of my boys will likely never have families.

So where will be my legacy? I wonder if maybe that’s why I write… to ensure there will be something left of me, even if it’s not a blood relative. I used to think about this in regards to my father. As an only child, and a girl to boot, the only chance of my father’s name being passed down was if I kept it. But I didn’t, in regards to my children. They have their father’s surname. So at this branch of the family tree, the name Hill will end… or will it? Again, if I publish my novels perhaps it will live on, at least as a concept if not a warm body.

As the generations pass on we are all eventually forgotten in everything but name. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could be somehow remembered though? Words go a long way.

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Author: Linda G. Hill

There's a writer in here, clawing her way out.

22 thoughts on “SoCS – Relatives

  1. Helen Vahdati's avatar

    I’m of the opinion that we will live on in the hearts and minds of those we touched most and I have to say, I believe you’ve touched many people with what you do here. Thanks, Linda! ❤️

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  2. Paul's avatar

    Hmmm, I suspect there are many with the same concerns as you have – in fact I am one. I am an only child and have had no children ( I have raised children with women who had them from previous marriages), so the family name ends with me too. It takes all kinds to make the world go around and your contribution has been, and will continue to be great Linda (including three kids). Whether the name moves forward or not does not change your contribution.

    As an aside Linda, I did a guest post over at Cordelia’s Mom and would be honored if you had the time to drop by for a read. http://cordeliasmomstill.com/2015/02/19/the-learning-curve-guest-post-by-paul-curran/#comments thanks so much Linda! 😀 In a round about way, it addresses the topic of our individual contribution, except in the workplace.

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  3. kreenee's avatar

    I never really gave much thought to this but my dad has one sister (who did not keep her maiden name) and 2 daughters who will also most likely not keep their maiden name when they get married. His name will die with him in this line of the family also.

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  4. Little Miss Titch's avatar

    That’s very true,but you will already live on in a small part with this blog,
    good luck with you novels,xx Rachel

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  5. blkkat49's avatar

    You made a valid and touching observation. I used to think of our family legacy when my parents died. Wanting to leave your imprint on the world is so normal. Your writing is leaving an imprint, and I’m sure all your children do that also. They are probably leaving imprints already.

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  6. LdG's avatar

    Beautiful and touching post, Linda. You’re already making a mark, and living in out hearts; and it’s a lot of them, in many countries all over the globe, who will always remember Linda Hill. And the book will happen. I’m sure. Don’t give up.

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  7. John W. Howell's avatar

    Words do last forever. Thougtful post

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  8. rixlibris's avatar

    This post touches home. I have relatives spread from Massachusetts to California and on to Hong Kong with many children that I have never seen.

    I posted “Why I Don’t Holiday” to express some of the personal losses caused by our highly mobile, scattered relationships.

    Having a family, as defined by that unit living in close proximity, able to gather and share experiences at short notice and on a regular basis, is becoming increasingly rare.

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  9. Michael's avatar

    When my dad died I saw myself for a brief moment as an orphan. But as you have seen I have a few relos.
    Within your children you will always live on.
    If your lucky and your books sell then that is an added bonus.

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  10. tric's avatar

    My neighbour is adopted and couldn’t have children. I remember her telling me when she decided to adopt, that that would mean she never had a blood relative. I was struck by it, as I was by your post. It’s an interesting thought that you will live on through your writing, and hopefully your son will have a family.
    I often recall past teachers of mine, who I owe a real debt to. My children have never met them, but they know about them by name, as they do my Dad. Blood is not everything, but I do totally understand your post. As always you give me food for thought.

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  11. JoAnna's avatar

    I think it was the movie, Its a Wonderful Life, where I heard the line about how each life touches so many others. You are already creating your legacy. I bet it continues to grow!

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  13. swo8's avatar

    Your children might surprise you and produce a lot of grandchildren. YOu never know about these things.
    Leslie

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  14. Tippy Gnu's avatar

    I wish you success with your novels. As for me, if there’s an afterlife, I don’t give a darn if I’m remembered in this world. And if there isn’t, it really doesn’t matter, as far as I can tell.

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  15. Deborah Drucker's avatar

    I hope we are remembered by our families, children. I like to think that I mattered to them if no one else. I think the love lives on.

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  16. Judy E Martin's avatar

    I think we all want to make out mark in some way, and leave our legacy. Writing a novel is a fantastic way to do this. 🙂

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  17. willowdot21's avatar

    You will live on forever!! ❤

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