I’m an excellent person for keeping secrets. Unfortunately, I’m a horrible liar. Unless it comes to my mother, in which case I’ve been practicing since I was four and had it down to an art by the time I was a teenager, I blush, I look the other way, I avoid eye contact… I do everything in the book that will show anyone with an ounce of observational skills that I’m not telling the truth.
Is it a good idea to entrust a bad liar with a secret? If the person you’re confiding in knows your deepest darkests, and they also know, say, your spouse, do you hope that somehow they will suddenly find the ability to not blush, or simply avoid your loved ones lest they give you away?
I’m finding myself confronted with these issues, not in real life, but because of my writing. My plot is so thick with secrets at the moment, that not only am I having a hard time keeping track of who knows what, but I’m finding it difficult to not give things away to my reader.
I actually studied the body language of people who are lying, just so that I could write a more believable liar. In this, I’ve found the perfect way to tell when my kids aren’t telling the truth, and how I, myself, can become a better liar.
But back to telling secrets. Everyone has them, whether they’re big like infidelity or small like you think someone looks horrible in their favourite suit. Fibbing is a necessity when it comes to secrets. Secrets in fiction can be the backbone of a story.
Can a person who is a bad liar even have secrets? I sometimes feel as though I’m an open book, for all to see. Maybe that’s why secrets are prevalent in my fiction – practice for real life. I’m puzzling it out on paper.
Do you suffer with this dilemma, either in fiction or in real life with yourself or someone you confide in?
Tell me. Tell me your secrets. I won’t tell anyone, promise. 😉
November 12, 2013 at 3:51 pm
I am the worst liar ever. Mostly because I can’t be bothered to make up anything good enough that people would believe it.
It’s always simplest to just tell the freaking truth.
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November 12, 2013 at 4:26 pm
Well see, you’re braver than I am at everything. And besides, it’s my job to make things up. I’m just better at it on paper. 😛
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November 11, 2013 at 8:32 pm
I was told once that I was a champ at keeping secrets by a boss. He didn’t know when someone said “don’t tell anyone” I simply forgot the conversation and couldn’t relate it even with truth serium
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November 11, 2013 at 8:58 pm
Haha! Yep, senility is great until you get to the point where you remember the details but forget that it was supposed to be secret.
Trust me, I’ve been there.
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November 11, 2013 at 8:00 pm
As a bad liar *doesn’t even bother trying* I can assure you I have secrets. I refer to them never, and nuance them as being omissions. omissions are much more innocent.
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November 11, 2013 at 8:03 pm
Agreed. I rarely if never tell anyone my secrets. It’s everyone else’s I have a problem with. 😛
Omissions are my saviour in so many ways.
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November 11, 2013 at 7:10 pm
I’m pretty good at lying, but I have chemical advantages. I’ve found that other people, when lying and pressed a bit, start talking way too much. There’s always at least one extraneous sentence of them either attempting to weave a new tapestry or buying time. I’ve never found someone who blushes though. Excessive talking, that’s the big one in my life.
As for secrets, I know someone who is a terrible liar that has a lot of my secrets. Never escaped from their mouth (and they’re the kind of secret that if someone found out I could tell). So I’d trust a bad liar. It also means I can tell if they told someone.
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November 11, 2013 at 7:53 pm
It sounds as though you’re very observant. It’s amazing how much you can pick up on if you really pay attention, isn’t it? I am too, which is probably why I figure everyone else can see what I can see, which is why I’m probably such a bad liar. I get too self-conscious.
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November 11, 2013 at 6:53 pm
I agree with Carrie above…..I can’t lie, I’m terrible at that!!
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November 11, 2013 at 7:48 pm
Glad to know I’m not the only one! 🙂
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November 11, 2013 at 6:38 pm
I think you can have secrets and still be a bad liar. As long as no one asks you about that secret…
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November 11, 2013 at 7:47 pm
Right. If they ask you specifics, pretend you don’t hear them and run. It’s a strategy I use often. Haha.
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November 11, 2013 at 6:18 pm
James, the narrator in my novels, is terrible at keeping secrets. I did that deliberately, because I wanted him to run counter to the byzantine web of secrets and deception that the other characters weave. So James is kind of a bull in a china shop, forgetting who is supposed to know what and blurting out the truth at inopportune moments.
It’s a reaction against shows like Supernatural and Fringe, where entire season story arcs are based on characters keeping secrets from each other. Of course, this also means that James is in the dark a lot, because the other characters don’t trust him with any important information.
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November 11, 2013 at 7:46 pm
James sounds like a fun and interesting character. I bought your novel a while back but I haven’t had a chance to start it yet. So busy editing, and now, NaNo. But it’s next on my list!
The challenge I’m having right now in my new novel is that I’m writing in first person POV and everyone around my main character has secrets – some they tell him, some they don’t, so he’s trying to figure out things for himself. I have to say, I’m not much help, since I don’t know half of what’s going on yet either. 😛
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November 11, 2013 at 6:11 pm
I seem to have a similar issue to you – oddly
I like how you incorporate this in your writing – almost like a fantasy – cant do in real life – so…then I guess fantasy its a pretty obvious connotation to story writing?? (stupid comment)
Rather – please lead me to this research – I am in need of such information…three kids n stuff..LOTS of stuff 😉
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November 11, 2013 at 7:39 pm
This: http://liespotting.com/liespotting-basics/body/ is one of the books I got from the library, but if you google ‘body language lying’ you’ll come up with tonnes of info. Even this link has some basics.
I don’t often incorporate fantasy in my longer stories, but my short stories are full of it. 🙂
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November 12, 2013 at 2:43 am
Thanks – time to learn how to lie 😛 NOW WHAT have you DONE??!! lol
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November 12, 2013 at 6:37 am
You learned early on – I’m a very bad influence. 😉
hehe
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November 12, 2013 at 6:39 am
It the most pleasant way possible 😀
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November 12, 2013 at 6:41 am
Oh but of course. I’ll invite you over for tea and have you trashed by seven. 😉
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November 12, 2013 at 6:43 am
wHAT TIME IS TEA?
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November 12, 2013 at 6:56 am
Haha!
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November 12, 2013 at 6:59 am
😛 ↫
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November 12, 2013 at 7:01 am
If only you lived close enough…
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November 12, 2013 at 7:08 am
we shall have to grow terribly strong arms 😉
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November 12, 2013 at 7:10 am
The head wind is in my favour. I’ll be there in ten minutes.
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November 12, 2013 at 7:12 am
LMAO – really – just about spewed my tea! Go write or something 😀
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November 12, 2013 at 7:14 am
It’s 7:14am. I have to get my kids off to school now. 😛
Sorry about the tea. 😉
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November 12, 2013 at 7:15 am
Take care 🙂
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November 11, 2013 at 5:55 pm
In my writing, I tell the truth. I do however, leave things out as not to expose too much. In real life, face to face I do the same. I tell only what must be told. I compare it to court. Only answer the question at hand. Any additional information may be incriminating.
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November 11, 2013 at 7:35 pm
Yep, if I can just shut up about whatever I’m told, I do. And stick to the truth as much as possible – I learned that one early on.
You see though, in the novel I’m writing right now, one of the main characters may or may not have killed someone. I don’t even know the truth. She’s SUCH a liar about everything else. Intrigue abounds!
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November 11, 2013 at 5:32 pm
I’m currently dealing with a liar at work. I just wish she’d be a better liar, so I didn’t have to know that she’s lying. 😀 I mean, gesh, if you’re gonna do it, do it so no one figures it out. I prefer straight truth and then tell everyone that what’s happening at my keyboard stays at my keyboard. Then change the subject… 🙂
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November 11, 2013 at 7:32 pm
Oh I so prefer the truth as well; both hearing it and telling it. I’ll have to remember the ‘what’s happening at my keyboard, stays at my keyboard’ thing. Too funny. 🙂
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November 11, 2013 at 5:15 pm
George Washington and I have one thing in common: we cannot tell… one cherry tree from another. Nice blog. 🙂
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November 11, 2013 at 7:30 pm
Haha! You got me with that one. 🙂 Thanks very much, Bruce.
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November 11, 2013 at 5:12 pm
Nicely written! I agree with Paul, it’s nice to catch people in a lie but not to tell them. It is almost too much fun.
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November 11, 2013 at 7:29 pm
Thanks very much, Nickie. 🙂 As I just said to Paul, I’m doing the keeping quiet on the lie-catching in my writing now too. I’m sure it’s going to end in an emotional, vengeance-filled explosion at the end. 🙂
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November 12, 2013 at 2:03 pm
Sounds exciting!
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November 12, 2013 at 2:16 pm
I can’t wait to find out what happens! 😉
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November 11, 2013 at 5:08 pm
I generally tell the truth. That way later, when you omit facts, people don’t usually question. And omission is a lot easier to do than straight out lying. In my experience.
Make character note cards and write what they know on them to keep it all straight. Then if you don’t remember or you need reference, you can look at that to check, and make sure they aren’t learning any contradicting lies, or that when they do they react appropriately. My new favorite thing to someone catching a lie: not reacting. Knowing someone’s full of crap but not revealing it is a powerful tool of manipulation.
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November 11, 2013 at 7:27 pm
Though lying by omission is still lying, it’s something I try to do as well. If I can just keep quiet, even better.
Good idea with the cards. I wanted to try Scrivener for this NaNo, because apparently it’s good for organizing like that, but I ran out of time.
And yes, I’m doing the silent treatment on the lie catching a lot in this novel. It’s like collecting ammo for the takedown. 🙂
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November 11, 2013 at 5:08 pm
If you want to keep a secret, you must also hide it from yourself 🙂
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November 11, 2013 at 7:08 pm
Like, know it and then forget it. That’s pretty good advice. 🙂
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