Have you ever considered that, when you started your blog you created a world for others to visit? You gave it an atmosphere with your chosen theme, with your words and your pictures you provide it with a feeling – is it like coming home? Or does it give the sensation of exploring a strange planet? Is it exotic, or down-to-earth? Has it changed since you began?
I started my blog, naively perhaps, with the intention to showcase my work for potential employers. I was going to write only long, well-thought-out articles and people would visit and “like” my posts and comment with words like, “Nice article,” or “Good job.” At first I hung on every click of the like button, and sponged up the positive feedback like it was a clear spring in the middle of the desert. In short, I had no clue what a blog could be.
It took me a while, but I started to make friends of the visitors to what I thought of as my little room. I found out that, even better than “likes” and faint praise, there could be actual discussion in them thar comment boxes. The “Nice work!”s transmuted from overgrown paths leading into my blog to highways full of people who related to what I was saying. And as they came back again and again, and we got to know each other, my room expanded. It evolved. It became a world.
With the expansion of my world, so too have my ideals. I appreciate this community so much that I want others to share in it. Rather than long, dry articles, I revel in the fact that I’m able to help people connect through their relatable experiences. I realised the potential that WordPress holds when I joined Dylan Dailey for “Every Damn Day December,” where I discovered how pingbacks work and how participating in a prompt can aid in the discovery of other bloggers – and in being discovered.
I launched “Just Jot it January” in a bid to keep the connections going between other bloggers, and I recently started “Stream of Consciousness Saturday” (SoCS) in order to keep the ball rolling.
It seems the more I perpetuate these connections, the more my blog evolves. A comment regarding the crappy little posts that I’ve been writing of late which seem more to bring in “likes” and less content, caused me to examine my reasons for blogging. Sure, I’ve given up the lofty goal of always writing awesome posts – but in doing so I’ve come to do what is more authentically me, and part of my nature, and that is to help people. I’ve realised in the last year that I don’t have the ability to write, much less come up with, long yet entertaining articles on a daily basis. I’m a novelist. For now, that’s what I want to concentrate on. That’s not to say my crappy little posts aren’t beneficial to me – I pay attention to views to see which opening lines get people’s attention, which is something I’ve been advised is essential to selling a novel.
By writing short posts that encourage involvement from my audience, I hope people are discovering one another. All they have to do is look around themselves in my comments – a warm, caring community is that close.
Welcome to my world. Feel free, anytime, to talk amongst yourselves here.
April 8, 2015 at 11:05 am
Linda, I have noticed the changes in your blog and felt, we as people change and evolve, shouldn’t our blogs reflect the same thing? I did not start mine with any expectations. It has grown slowly and steadily and I like to think of people who visit and comment, especially the regulars, as my friends. Not all bloggers consider the blogoverse real, but I do. I have had only one person attack me, someone I was good to and I am still recovering from it and wondering why, when I have been so gracious and friendly to that person and everyone I interact with. So, that has prompted me to redouble my efforts to cultivate other friends, appreciate them and their blogs more and find a new way to interconnect all of them in a helpful and positive way. I appreciate and applaud what you are doing. You always give me new ideas, here.
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April 8, 2015 at 3:14 pm
Thank you, Beth. 🙂 I know the sting of being attacked by someone I thought was a friend, but for me too it was only once. For the most part this world we share here online is full of caring individuals with similar ideals and desires. To belong seems to be among the strongest.
I appreciate your comment and I’m glad I’m able to inspire you. 🙂
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April 8, 2015 at 10:55 am
Beautiful, I too love blogging because it has brought me into contact with kindred spirits from different parts of the world and it has brought the world to my room. Thanks for sharing:)
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April 8, 2015 at 3:09 pm
Thank you for commenting! 🙂 I love knowing that others have shared the same positive experience I’ve found here at WordPress.
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April 7, 2015 at 2:19 pm
We owe it to ourselves and to any readers to keep a post mistake free, but the point of a blog shouldn’t be to labor on something forever. I like to write what I am thinking or what life has presented. That is why I never run out of things to say. I have an overall theme, but within that I find the freedom to write so many things.
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April 7, 2015 at 2:28 pm
Exactly the way I feel. If your theme is something you know a lot about then it’s easy to keep it fresh. And as you say, freshness deserves an element of spontaneity which only comes from our own voices.
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March 6, 2014 at 1:10 am
That’s one of the wonderful things about blogs – they are indeed like ‘your own little world.’ Only you can have other people join your world, and you can join theirs. What a wonderful thing the internet can be, for blogs prove that you are never alone in whatever you are feeling.
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March 6, 2014 at 1:54 pm
That’s very true. There’s always someone out there who can relate. Thanks very much for your comment 🙂
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March 5, 2014 at 5:05 pm
What a brilliant way to think of blogging. Thanks for sharing it!
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March 5, 2014 at 5:40 pm
Thank you for your kind words 🙂
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March 4, 2014 at 10:23 am
Blog world–absolutely. My current blog is a replacement for an old blog, which began as an anonymous grief blog. My “cohort” of grievers became real life friends, and after awhile, I let other people I knew IRL see it, as a kind of memoir and way to help them see into my world. People talked about how seeing the conversations we’d had over the years on my blog helped them be kinder and more supportive.
But then, after awhile, I no longer felt free. I wasn’t comfortable sharing my new thoughts and feelings in the moment I had them, but felt more compelled to edit and complete draft after draft.
Now I can complete a post in an hour or so, and put it up there, and almost no one reads it. I’m struggling between missing the attention I used to get and appreciating that I don’t have to mediate my voice anymore for colleagues, friends, and family. That’s not a plea for visits and comments, really. I’ve just realized that starting a blog and sharing a blog is a bigger deal that I realized years ago. It doesn’t go through editors, agents and publishers, and it can be difficult to have to deal with people’s misunderstandings or your words, or their propensity to bring up raw feelings you had in the past but don’t have today.
(I hope that wasn’t too long of a comment.)
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March 4, 2014 at 9:22 pm
Not too long at all. Interesting, in fact. Having to edit your thoughts can be tough. I do find it easier now than I did at the beginning, always wondering how much of myself to ‘put out there,’ since I’m using my own name. I think I’ve found a balance though. Knowing that people I know read my blog keeps me honest – not that I’m dishonest mind you – but it keeps me in check. Know what I mean? Of course you do 😉
I think, with time, and if you’re doing all the right things like tagging and visiting other blogs with the same interests as you, you’ll find your following again.
Best of luck with it, Rory. And thanks for the great comment! 🙂
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March 3, 2014 at 10:07 pm
Your post made me think that my blog is like my home and other bloggers who visit it are my guests and that I ought to treat them graciously and generously. Thank you for this:)
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March 4, 2014 at 12:15 pm
You’re welcome, Carol! 🙂 Thanks for commenting!
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March 3, 2014 at 7:02 pm
Linda, I’m new to your blog and as I’ve mentioned, I greatly appreciate your warm welcome. I’m just weird. I’m not a writer, or a blogger, but rather a person who wants a social media life that is as real (and connected) as my real life. In my real life, I don’t obsess over words or spelling or pictures, but I do obsess over clarity and positive engagement. I’ve moderated message boards and enjoy Twitter for years. I started and stopped blogging several times during that time before my current blog, but now I feel like I “get” what I’m trying to do here. I don’t need to be followed, but I want to be welcoming. I definitely don’t need to be liked, but I want to engage in conversation. I want to take the best of what the blogging format has to offer to better engage with others and their content. So, yes, I do see my blog as me and my world and as an extension of what I do each day. I’m grateful for any constructive feedback and suggestions on how to make my blog home more welcoming. I really do want you to see me through my blog 🙂 Have a great week!
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March 4, 2014 at 11:53 am
I think any blog is as welcoming as the content can be related to. The more people who come to visit, who see the world the same way you do, the more interaction you’re likely to receive. I think it’s important to leave an opening for discussion, if that’s what you’re looking for, and style helps as well. If you can imagine your audience is right there with you when you write, they will be.
Hope this makes sense!
Thanks very much for sharing, Angie 😀
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March 4, 2014 at 1:30 pm
This makes perfect sense, Linda! I appreciate you taking the time to help me to process. I think I’m on the right track because I am receiving more views and more comments, so I think I need to be patient and keep on learning and getting better. Relatable…that’s where I’ll put my focus 🙂 And you have me thinking of a few other things too. Much appreciated 🙂
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March 4, 2014 at 9:36 pm
Very happy to help! 😀
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March 3, 2014 at 6:50 pm
I started with no idea what to expect. I still don’t know what to expect and am pleasantly surprised when I get any sort of feedback. I began the blog as just an avenue of expression. Over the past 2 years I have learned a lot about myself and have gained blogging friendships that are quite amazing.
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March 3, 2014 at 6:55 pm
It’s nice to know you’re getting a lot of benefit from your blog. It’s been quite a journey for you … I’ve enjoyed getting to know you over the past year 🙂
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March 3, 2014 at 4:48 pm
I like to visit your blog Linda and I do really appreciate, that you are not writing kilometer long posts. Unfortunately, I’m not good to keep focus so long time for one post. You use to write about your daily life and about how the world looks from your view. That is great.
I think too, that evolution is important. I can also feel, that my blog has been through big evolution since the beginning and that is okay. We learn every day and I like it that way.
I love your new roses.
Irene
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March 3, 2014 at 6:09 pm
Thanks so much, Irene. 🙂 You’re right, there IS a lot of learning that comes with blogging. The experience seems to change with the seasons – it keeps it interesting!
Glad you like the roses 🙂
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March 3, 2014 at 4:07 pm
I totally get what you’re saying here. I know my blog and what I write about has evolved over time.. Then evolved again and again. It’s a continuous thing really. I look back at some frivolous (but relevant at the time) stuff I wrote years ago and know it wouldn’t necessarily appeal to the current audience, or what I’m currently projecting through my writing.
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March 3, 2014 at 4:32 pm
It’s a good thing I think though, not to allow things to grow stagnant. Evolution is healthy… and so is knowing where we came from. 🙂
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March 3, 2014 at 6:14 pm
Absolutely 🙂
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March 3, 2014 at 3:42 pm
I think I have changed in my writing as well. It has become more interactive as I write with people in mind now rather than spending time putting well crafted words together. 🙂
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March 3, 2014 at 4:05 pm
Thing is, you’ve got to ask yourself who you’re writing for, right? It’s good to know I’m not the only one. Thanks, Sue. 🙂
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March 4, 2014 at 2:55 pm
No worries my dear.
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March 3, 2014 at 3:34 pm
Well for my two cents; I like the slices of life you bring to your blog. It is a friendly place to sit a while and look at the world as you see it.
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March 3, 2014 at 3:35 pm
Thanks very much, John. I appreciate your saying so. 🙂
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March 3, 2014 at 3:03 pm
I am still amazed by what gets folks commenting on my blog. Some of my most thoughtful and well written (in my mind) posts get no comments, while something ‘just off the top of my head’ sparks interest. This is what keeps me going. Ya just nevah know…
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March 3, 2014 at 3:20 pm
It brings to mind a forum I was part of once. There were thousands of posts there to discuss various things, but the one which had the most comments on it— like 100x more than the next most popular post — existed only because the poster was unable to delete it once it was created. The post said only this: “Ignore this post.”
Approximately 30,000 people actively “ignored” it for almost a month. Haha.
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March 3, 2014 at 3:23 pm
Oh My Gawd that’s funny. Laugh out loud funny. I may have to try that.
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March 3, 2014 at 3:34 pm
🙂 Go for it. 🙂
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March 3, 2014 at 2:49 pm
I don’t think I write as well as when my blog first started. Mostly because life has become very stressful and I just don’t have the time or energy. It’s sad really. I want it to be like it was when I started last August
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March 3, 2014 at 3:16 pm
I hate not having the time to put more effort into my blog as well. But … life happens, right? Hope you’re able to achieve your goal of writing more soon 🙂
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March 3, 2014 at 2:42 pm
Interesting idea. It does seem that as we gather followers and move along in blogging, our world evolves. What I write now is nothing like what I started with.
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March 3, 2014 at 3:15 pm
Right? Apart from my grammar (the course did so much more for me than I’d like to admit) my posts now are as different as night and day, in my eyes at least.
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March 3, 2014 at 3:30 pm
I think we run out of subjects and branch out too. Especially if we’re daily bloggers.
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March 3, 2014 at 3:34 pm
Which would explain why my blog doesn’t really have a theme… 😛
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March 3, 2014 at 3:59 pm
No theme means more freedom. 😀
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March 3, 2014 at 4:01 pm
True enough! 😀
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March 3, 2014 at 2:36 pm
Sometimes, “crappy little posts” are like sh***y first drafts. You let it all hang out there because it’s what’s on your mind. Just remember, writing, like art, is in the eye of the beholder. 😉 Any reader can choose to turn a blind eye, or can choose to learn from the experience of reading. 🙂
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March 3, 2014 at 3:14 pm
That’s what I thought too, Susan. I always try to write something of relevance in every post – and keep them mistake-free as well.
Thanks for your support. 🙂
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