Linda G. Hill

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#SoCS – Advice needed from parents and horrible grammar

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“If you let the dog out of his crate, you’re not getting your lemonade stand today.”

That’s how today’s disaster started. Over and over again I tell my mentally delayed son that if he doesn’t do as he’s told, he’ll suffer the consequences. And over and over he goes ahead and does the opposite anyway. And then we all suffer the consequences.

I’m sure he understands the “if/then” concept. But like a two-year-old (he’s 15), he enjoys pushing his boundaries. He is, in fact, caught somewhere between the terrible twos and puberty. The “what ifs” and “I can do what I want.” And it’s scary.

It’s been so long since I’ve raised a child in a normal situation, that I don’t really remember how long it usually takes a child to understand consequences. It’s normally after a few failures, isn’t it? I’m asking the parents of “normal” toddlers and young kids. If you add the deafness and the fact that Alex and I don’t speak the same language to the mental delay, my situation is hardly “normal.” I want to add to this that I am very consistent. If I say there will be a consequence, I stick to it, no matter how long the screaming, hitting, and breaking things goes on. Him, not me. But I’m tempted sometimes. πŸ˜›

To be fair, it’s not a very good day for a lemonade stand today anyway. It’s cool, cloudy, and there aren’t many people about. I promised him next week, if he can be good.

So instead he’s gone with his brother for a ride on the city bus. On the way back home I was listening to the radio in the car (from dropping them at the bus station) and the announcer said the following:

“Get your face painted or get your kids’ faces painted. It don’t matter.”

This in regards to a festival going on in the next town. Wouldn’t you think they’d hire people at a radio station with maybe not impeccable, but at least good grammar? Am I being too picky?

So anyhoo, if I’m not around too much next weekend, you’ll know I’m outside in my driveway selling lemonade. We’ll see what the weather’s like then.

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31 thoughts on “#SoCS – Advice needed from parents and horrible grammar

  1. Might a suggest a splash of vodka in your lemon-aid?

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    • Hahaha! YES! That’ll work. πŸ™‚ Just got to remember not to mix up the glasses and get arrested for getting the neighbourhood kids drunk. πŸ˜› πŸ˜‰

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      • At a cousin’s wedding, my little second cousin came over saying he wasn’t feeling well. He had a punch cup in hand — I asked which bowl he had been dipping into — he pointed to the adult “spiked” version, not the non-alcoholic one. He hadn’t had that much, so I had him drink water, then lay down and I kept an eye on him as he “slept it off.” We agreed not to tell his mother who would have panicked.

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  2. I’ve seen both, and I think it’s more about how long the individual takes to learn the concept of consequences.

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  3. Good luck – I can’t be of any help at all. Sorry.

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  4. I’ll still say it any day, parenting is the toughest job ever. Well done. I repeat if’s and consequences each day that if I got paid for the number of times, I would be wealthy πŸ™‚

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  5. Yes yes the joys of parenthood!

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  6. I’m just joining this. I’m still figuring out pingback (maybe someone here can help?) but here is my post. Btw: really enjoyed yours:) https://45ragestreet.org/2016/07/16/stream-of-consciousness-saturday/

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    • Thanks for joining in, Laura! The pingbacks only work if you’re still on WordPress. As soon as you go self-hosted, they stop working. But doing it this way is no problem! We have a few participants from Blogger as well who just copy and paste to the comments. πŸ™‚

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  7. My autistic grandson is 11 with themental age of four. He is slowly learning hitting results in time out but it is a long slow process. I am glad you are getting some time off. You sound like you need a break.

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  8. You are terrific to do a lemonade stand at all, Linda. I’m impressed!

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  9. Maybe he doesn’t want a lemonade stand? Gosh, I don’t know. I’m sure there’s more involved here. Perhaps letting the dog out of the crate is worth more to him than many other things?

    As for the radio, well, I’m American and unfit to judge. πŸ˜‰

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    • He really did want the lemonade stand. Sometimes I wonder if he sabotages himself for fear of success. You know, the same way some people never finish their novel for fear that their success will never live up to their expectations…? πŸ˜‰
      Wait… you mean they don’t practice good grammar on the radio down there on a regular basis?!?

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  10. Good for you for being consistent. That’s the hardest part.

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  11. I totally empathize with what you are going through. When I finally get home from my business trip, my wife and I are going to have a long talk with our son. While overall he is a good kid, he seriously lacks responsibility and a sense of urgency to be responsible. So we will now have to start talking about consequences and enforcing them. I am sure it will be a painful process for all of us.

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  12. As I remember, it takes until age 4 before the concept of “do the crime, do the time” makes any headway. I remember when a friend’s young child threw a down-on-the floor, kicking tantrum in a grocery store because her mother wouldn’t buy something she wanted. Her mother, standing at the check-out counter, suddenly threw herself down beside her child and had her own tantrum. Her daughter was in such shock that she never did it again. As the broadcaster, shame on him. However, it seems that today, with all the tweets and twitters, correct grammar is becoming a thing of the past in correspondence. Unfortunately, it has crept into broadcasts, tv shows, and the movies. I cringe every time someone says, ” I should have ran,” or “I should have went,” or “Me and him went to the movies.”

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    • If I can catch my son’s behaviour early enough, I can sometimes diffuse things by copying him. It depends mostly on the stakes and how much he wants/doesn’t want something.
      As for grammar, so much makes me cringe these days. I think part of that may have to do with my own focus on editing. πŸ˜›

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  13. Oh the joys of parenthood!

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