I’m too hard on myself. I know this. I think it’s a common condition in artists of all disciplines – of course, we want to put our best foot forward. What is the use, after all, of showcasing mediocre work?
Even in blogging – maybe especially here on my blog – I tend to wait until I have the best idea before I post. It has to be not only interesting, but worth at least a hundred words (more if possible, but not so many that no one will open it in their reader), and it has to be something that other people can relate to. The grammar and spelling must be as close to perfect as I can achieve, the wording has to be right and with any luck it will evoke at least one emotional response from my readers.
So many requirements! So many, in fact, that often my posts never see the light of day because I don’t deem them good enough. In essence, I paralyze myself with my self-imposed need for perfection.
What is the alternative? Write articles and blog posts that no one wants to read? Put out such drivel that I lose followers?
I think I need to find a happy medium somewhere. There must be one, right? Maybe I should stop proofreading fifteen times – that would certainly cut down on the hours I spend writing only a few lines. It would also allow me more time to work on my course, edit my novel, and – hey, here’s an idea – do housework! Ha!
Nah!
So here’s a question or two: How many times do you proofread your posts? And are you, like me, a perfectionist? Is it a thing artists do, do you think?
Okay, that’s three questions. Maybe I’m not that much of a perfectionist after all. 😉
October 8, 2013 at 12:09 am
You don’t want to hear from perfectionists. =) Our strength is our weakness, yes? Thanks for enjoying my work. And btw, the rest of the OM interview is up.
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October 8, 2013 at 6:34 am
Most definitely, yes 🙂
I saw that last night before I went to bed. I’ll come and check it out later. Thanks.
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October 2, 2013 at 10:58 am
I can relate to this! It’s to the point where if I find typos in other people’s posts, it can spoil the writing for me. Of course, often I’ll come across typos that have been surrounded on all sides by great ideas.
Plus, I am very slowly letting my hair down with my own blog though –you won’t find many typos — but my posts sometimes “evolve” a day or so later, and I am okay with that.
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October 2, 2013 at 1:34 pm
That’s something else I have a problem with – changing my posts after they’re published. I guess it’s one of the reasons I need to make them perfect to start with. 😛
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October 1, 2013 at 5:08 pm
Agree, and then I don’t post nearly enough and people probably forget about me. I’m not too worried about losing readers though – I’m still surprised whenever anybody shows up anyway! 🙂 If I really need to get something out, sometimes I’ll put a warning at the top: Caution, Unedited – please forgive typos, misspellings, and awkward sentences. And then when it meets the appropriate standards, I’ll take the warning label off. 😉
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October 1, 2013 at 6:22 pm
Haha! You’re braver than I am. My OCD would never let me get away with hitting that publish button before I believed my post to be perfect.
Thanks for the comment 🙂
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October 1, 2013 at 8:24 am
Oh my gosh, sometimes I read my posts so many times, I can’t stand to look at them anymore! I can drive myself crazy!
But, no, I’m not a perfectionist. I don’t think. No one has ever accused me of being one and I’m not feeling like one, but I do cringe over misspelling and bad word choices. I don’t like to have my flow interrupted, and I aim the same for my readers.
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October 1, 2013 at 8:37 am
There are only certain things in life I need to perfect. My house is a semi-organized mess at the best of times. I think my perfectionism is limited to only creative endeavours. <— For instance that word right there. I just looked it up to make sure there was, indeed, a "u" in it in the U.K. spelling, because WP (or Firefox) put a red line beneath it.
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October 1, 2013 at 8:46 am
Yeah, my house is pretty close to perfect. But NOT perfect, and perfect isn’t a goal for me. Good Gawd, you’ve just inspired me.
I’m sorry the Queen’s English isn’t recognized by OS’s, I really am. I apologize on behalf of Americans everywhere!
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October 1, 2013 at 8:49 am
Haha! It just keeps me on my ever-Canadian toes. 😛
Always happy to be an inspiration 🙂 …wait, that’s a good thing, right? You’re not off to knock yourself out cleaning your house or anything…?
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October 1, 2013 at 8:58 am
LOL, Psh, no, my house is always clean enough 😉 ,I thought I might WRITE 🙂
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October 1, 2013 at 9:01 am
Well in that case, Yay! 🙂
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September 30, 2013 at 11:02 pm
What a great thread you’ve created here. Such an interesting topic and replies. If I’m posting a prose post – like about the day, etc – I don’t proof read those. If Word press finds a spelling error, I’ll fix that. If it’s a poem that I’m posting, one can be sure – 99% of the time – that it’s been proof read for weeks…it not years I don’t think I’ve ever posted – here – a poem I consider finished…
Ellespeth
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October 1, 2013 at 6:07 am
Thanks Ellespeth 🙂 So we’re exact opposites then – except I don’t think I’ve ever hung on to anything without someone reading it for years. Weeks, maybe. I’m just too impatient for that. 😛 You’re more of a perfectionist than I am then!
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September 30, 2013 at 8:33 pm
ok I can somewhat relate… I am a bit of a perfectionist myself… much of what I write doesn’t see the light of day… how I combat this is I don’t really even proof read anything, a quick glance scanning the text that’s about it… I have a general feeling when I am writing if something is good or it’s not… I don’t edit or change a body of text once it is written except for spelling mistakes and typos… I do sometimes go back and read what I have wrote after I posted… but that is usually when I have to respond to comments and I need to refresh my memory…
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September 30, 2013 at 9:25 pm
I’m much the same way when I write poetry. Usually what you see is what came straight from brain to screen. I do agonize much more over fiction than I do articles. I suppose that’s the editor in me. It’s gotten worse since I started editing my manuscript.
I do know what you mean though about just knowing what’s good and what isn’t. I have to say I’m amazed at how well your largely unedited work comes out! 🙂
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September 30, 2013 at 7:22 pm
After reading these posts, I no longer feel alone in my constant revisioning. 😀
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September 30, 2013 at 7:26 pm
We perfectionists have to stick together! 😀
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September 30, 2013 at 7:52 pm
Truly we do! I’m a mess reading, rereading, questioning…ugh. Then still left to wonder why I think I can write. 🙂 It’s a vicious circle…
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September 30, 2013 at 8:02 pm
Well I’m glad you do eventually get it out there. I’m looking forward to reading your blog. 🙂
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September 30, 2013 at 8:03 pm
Same here!
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September 30, 2013 at 8:05 pm
🙂
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September 30, 2013 at 7:01 pm
I need to write longer posts. Mine usually are very short, but I’m also showcasing more of my photography. I’m trying to work more on the writing piece..I suppose I’m also afraid that it might not be good enough…..I hate fear!!!
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September 30, 2013 at 7:09 pm
I do too! The thing is, you never know until you get feedback. 😛
I suggest you check out this blog: http://andrewvokes.wordpress.com/ if you don’t already know him. Andrew has a photography blog as well, but (at least at the start) he wrote a little about what brought him to take the picture that each post is about. His blog might give you some ideas. 🙂
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September 30, 2013 at 7:32 pm
Thanks, Linda….I will give him a follow!!🙋
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September 30, 2013 at 7:33 pm
😀
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September 30, 2013 at 6:38 pm
Yes I am a perfectionist and right now I am failing at potty training, namely number 2. Suggestions?
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September 30, 2013 at 6:41 pm
Wait until you know she can’t hold it in any longer, put her on the potty, and make her laugh like hell. Then praise her to the moon.
…oh wait, were you talking about yourself? Never mind.
hehe
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September 30, 2013 at 6:43 pm
She holds it till she sleeps though. ugh
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September 30, 2013 at 6:45 pm
So put her on the potty before bed. It really does work. Seriously.
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September 30, 2013 at 6:46 pm
Well we do. And we wait. She is incredibly stubborn. The first child was easy.
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September 30, 2013 at 6:48 pm
Tickle her, Elmo! It works every time!
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September 30, 2013 at 6:49 pm
I am gonna try that. Stay tuned.
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September 30, 2013 at 6:50 pm
With bated (yet held) breath.
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September 30, 2013 at 6:52 pm
Good, it gets rather stinky. ugh!
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September 30, 2013 at 6:52 pm
Ah, the joys of parenthood. ;D
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September 30, 2013 at 6:53 pm
Mmmhmmmm!
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September 30, 2013 at 6:54 pm
They start pre school first time tomorrow!
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September 30, 2013 at 6:54 pm
Wow! You must be on tenterhooks!
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September 30, 2013 at 6:56 pm
Heh, I suppose. My wife is heh.
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September 30, 2013 at 6:57 pm
Maybe it’s a girl thing. 😛
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September 30, 2013 at 6:59 pm
Hmmm maybe it is just me. =/
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September 30, 2013 at 7:02 pm
I would have thought your protectiveness would kick in. Not that they won’t be fine, of course. I did find it took a while to get used to having someone else care for them though.
…Okay, I still worry a little. THAT’s probably a mom thing.
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September 30, 2013 at 7:04 pm
Well we visited and I saw 0 things I hated. It is only 2 days for 2.5 hrs, no biggie to me cause of how long maybe.
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September 30, 2013 at 7:10 pm
Wait ’til they’re in school full time. Then again, this is probably a good way to start, to get all of you used to it. 🙂
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September 30, 2013 at 7:12 pm
Yep that is the goal! 🙂
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September 30, 2013 at 5:59 pm
I put all my posts on word then cut and paste over to WP. I think this cuts down on the errors. I am not perfect and don’t even try to be but in direct answer. I proof once. I have a WTF attitude and would rather get the message out and not worry about weather it will be read or not. Your stuff is so good this just kills me that you have some angst about it. Of course this make you you.
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September 30, 2013 at 6:31 pm
We all have our quirks, I guess. 🙂 Saving everything on my computer is something I keep meaning to do. If anything ever happens to my WP account it’ll all be lost. Talk about stress!!!
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September 30, 2013 at 4:55 pm
Maybe you are a perfectionist, maybe not, but I think you are perfect!
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September 30, 2013 at 4:56 pm
Awww, thank you. You’re too kind 😀
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September 30, 2013 at 4:47 pm
I get the feeling that I am not entertaining enough sometimes. My posts tend to be informative and sometimes creative, but not so entertaining, and that is horrible. We love to be entertained, at least I do. That is a large part of why I blog. Problem is…my humor is weird. Some people don’t get it. I feel nervous about putting my funnies out there. Often, I will go ahead and hit the publish button and then go back and edit…many times before anyone has a chance to read it. Not ideal.
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September 30, 2013 at 4:50 pm
Oh I have SO done that – written something and then thought, nobody is going to get this! I guess that’s one of the problems we have as writers, with all these worlds we have going on in our heads. 😛
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September 30, 2013 at 4:44 pm
Good stuff! Got me thinking. I read my blog 20/30 times! Often out loud and over several days – even weeks. And often I think it’s not only perfect, but good. Then I post it. Suddenly I see all sorts of errors, and think what a load of unadulterated crap I’ve just posted.
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September 30, 2013 at 4:48 pm
But you post every day! How far in advance have you written?
Anyway, what’s this ‘unadulterated crap’ nonsense? If you’ve written any of that, I certainly haven’t come across it. 🙂
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September 30, 2013 at 5:16 pm
I usually like to have two weeks of unadulterated crap in store. I have a pile that I keep rejecting (out of fear because they are too horrifying; not at all funny but a bit too true to life… Keep deleting them and writing them out again…) Anyway – keep up your wonderful blogging which I always enjoy – and I don’t cair to mutch about other’s people’s speling n granma.
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September 30, 2013 at 5:20 pm
Ah yes, I keep my stash of “too horrifying” in with my “please God don’t let my kids read this” pile. Haha.
Thank you very mush, m’dear. 😉 I’ll kepe that in mined.
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September 30, 2013 at 4:00 pm
I’m with you–I spend a lot of time proofreading my posts. My number of drafts is ridiculous sometimes. But I always think I need to change this word or that sentence or what not. It’s funny, because just this morning before I published my post, I was thinking that after 150 posts and almost 2 years of blogging, I still get nervous putting my stuff out there.
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September 30, 2013 at 4:46 pm
I know! Me too! I go to hit the publish button and then think, “I should read this one more time,” like, ten times! 😛
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September 30, 2013 at 4:59 pm
Yep.
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September 30, 2013 at 3:49 pm
Ha. My posts are usually verbal diarrhea put into text……perhaps I should catch a little perfectionism!
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September 30, 2013 at 4:43 pm
Haha! But I love your VD!
….wait ….
😀
Don’t change, my dear. Your posts are golden. 😉
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September 30, 2013 at 5:30 pm
Who knew I had VD, lol?
OMG. Now THAT really made me laugh.
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September 30, 2013 at 5:50 pm
Hahaha! 😀
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September 30, 2013 at 3:49 pm
It’s the words that count, not counting words 🙂
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September 30, 2013 at 4:41 pm
…which is why it takes me so long to write a post – finding the perfect word. 😛 I really drive myself crazy over it sometimes.
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September 30, 2013 at 3:38 pm
I go over and over blog posts. I often plan to schedule in three or four of an evening and only get a couple done. But quality over quantity is good anyway!
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September 30, 2013 at 4:40 pm
I agree. That’s what I should do – write more and see what can be published. Thanks for that. 🙂
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September 30, 2013 at 3:36 pm
We can be too hard on ourselves. I am not with my blog (it isn’t a part of my professional world), but you should see me when I’m at work 😉
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September 30, 2013 at 4:38 pm
I suppose this is as close to work as I get. Well, apart from the 24/7 job of parenting… 😛
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September 30, 2013 at 3:20 pm
Oh, I am definitely a proofreader and a perfectionist, although that still doesn’t keep the odd typo from getting through. I do think if you want to post more, you’ll have to proofread less. Perhaps you should try that with a couple of posts. The imperfections may be in your eyes only 🙂
When I’m unsure about a post, I just save it and come back to it later if it’s not time-sensitive. Usually another read after a day or two helps me to finish it off and hit Publish. Oh, and yes, I think artists tend to be perfectionists, although our idea of perfectionism may not always be the same as others.
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September 30, 2013 at 4:37 pm
Admittedly, I only proofread this one once, so you see, great minds… 😉 I think perfectionism reaches a different standard when we’re dealing with our own work rather than someone else’s.
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October 1, 2013 at 7:58 am
Very true. I see that with my knitting. I will rip out and start over a nearly complete shawl because of one misplaced stitch. I feel that way about my writing. It’s insane.
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October 1, 2013 at 8:32 am
Haha! I’ve undone 3/4 of an afghan because of a single stitch.
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October 1, 2013 at 2:22 pm
Well, there you go. We’re both insane perfectionists 😉
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October 1, 2013 at 3:16 pm
Haha!
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