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Paralyzing Perfectionism

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I’m too hard on myself. I know this. I think it’s a common condition in artists of all disciplines – of course, we want to put our best foot forward. What is the use, after all, of showcasing mediocre work?

Even in blogging – maybe especially here on my blog – I tend to wait until I have the best idea before I post. It has to be not only interesting, but worth at least a hundred words (more if possible, but not so many that no one will open it in their reader), and it has to be something that other people can relate to. The grammar and spelling must be as close to perfect as I can achieve, the wording has to be right and with any luck it will evoke at least one emotional response from my readers.

So many requirements! So many, in fact, that often my posts never see the light of day because I don’t deem them good enough. In essence, I paralyze myself with my self-imposed need for perfection.

What is the alternative? Write articles and blog posts that no one wants to read? Put out such drivel that I lose followers?

I think I need to find a happy medium somewhere. There must be one, right? Maybe I should stop proofreading fifteen times – that would certainly cut down on the hours I spend writing only a few lines. It would also allow me more time to work on my course, edit my novel, and – hey, here’s an idea – do housework! Ha!

Nah!

So here’s a question or two: How many times do you proofread your posts? And are you, like me, a perfectionist? Is it a thing artists do, do you think?

Okay, that’s three questions. Maybe I’m not that much of a perfectionist after all. 😉

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Author: Linda G. Hill

There's a writer in here, clawing her way out.

75 thoughts on “Paralyzing Perfectionism

  1. Holistic Wayfarer's avatar

    You don’t want to hear from perfectionists. =) Our strength is our weakness, yes? Thanks for enjoying my work. And btw, the rest of the OM interview is up.

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  2. ianstarttoday's avatar

    I can relate to this! It’s to the point where if I find typos in other people’s posts, it can spoil the writing for me. Of course, often I’ll come across typos that have been surrounded on all sides by great ideas.

    Plus, I am very slowly letting my hair down with my own blog though –you won’t find many typos — but my posts sometimes “evolve” a day or so later, and I am okay with that.

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    • Linda G. Hill's avatar

      That’s something else I have a problem with – changing my posts after they’re published. I guess it’s one of the reasons I need to make them perfect to start with. 😛

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  3. perfectday's avatar

    Agree, and then I don’t post nearly enough and people probably forget about me. I’m not too worried about losing readers though – I’m still surprised whenever anybody shows up anyway! 🙂 If I really need to get something out, sometimes I’ll put a warning at the top: Caution, Unedited – please forgive typos, misspellings, and awkward sentences. And then when it meets the appropriate standards, I’ll take the warning label off. 😉

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  4. joey's avatar

    Oh my gosh, sometimes I read my posts so many times, I can’t stand to look at them anymore! I can drive myself crazy!
    But, no, I’m not a perfectionist. I don’t think. No one has ever accused me of being one and I’m not feeling like one, but I do cringe over misspelling and bad word choices. I don’t like to have my flow interrupted, and I aim the same for my readers.

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    • Linda G. Hill's avatar

      There are only certain things in life I need to perfect. My house is a semi-organized mess at the best of times. I think my perfectionism is limited to only creative endeavours. <— For instance that word right there. I just looked it up to make sure there was, indeed, a "u" in it in the U.K. spelling, because WP (or Firefox) put a red line beneath it.

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  5. Ellespeth's avatar

    What a great thread you’ve created here. Such an interesting topic and replies. If I’m posting a prose post – like about the day, etc – I don’t proof read those. If Word press finds a spelling error, I’ll fix that. If it’s a poem that I’m posting, one can be sure – 99% of the time – that it’s been proof read for weeks…it not years I don’t think I’ve ever posted – here – a poem I consider finished…
    Ellespeth

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    • Linda G. Hill's avatar

      Thanks Ellespeth 🙂 So we’re exact opposites then – except I don’t think I’ve ever hung on to anything without someone reading it for years. Weeks, maybe. I’m just too impatient for that. 😛 You’re more of a perfectionist than I am then!

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  6. tjtherien's avatar

    ok I can somewhat relate… I am a bit of a perfectionist myself… much of what I write doesn’t see the light of day… how I combat this is I don’t really even proof read anything, a quick glance scanning the text that’s about it… I have a general feeling when I am writing if something is good or it’s not… I don’t edit or change a body of text once it is written except for spelling mistakes and typos… I do sometimes go back and read what I have wrote after I posted… but that is usually when I have to respond to comments and I need to refresh my memory…

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    • Linda G. Hill's avatar

      I’m much the same way when I write poetry. Usually what you see is what came straight from brain to screen. I do agonize much more over fiction than I do articles. I suppose that’s the editor in me. It’s gotten worse since I started editing my manuscript.
      I do know what you mean though about just knowing what’s good and what isn’t. I have to say I’m amazed at how well your largely unedited work comes out! 🙂

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  7. Audrey Dawn - Oldest Daughter Redheaded Sister's avatar

    After reading these posts, I no longer feel alone in my constant revisioning. 😀

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  8. acuriousgal's avatar

    I need to write longer posts. Mine usually are very short, but I’m also showcasing more of my photography. I’m trying to work more on the writing piece..I suppose I’m also afraid that it might not be good enough…..I hate fear!!!

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  9. Opinionated Man's avatar

    Yes I am a perfectionist and right now I am failing at potty training, namely number 2. Suggestions?

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  10. John W. Howell's avatar

    I put all my posts on word then cut and paste over to WP. I think this cuts down on the errors. I am not perfect and don’t even try to be but in direct answer. I proof once. I have a WTF attitude and would rather get the message out and not worry about weather it will be read or not. Your stuff is so good this just kills me that you have some angst about it. Of course this make you you.

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    • Linda G. Hill's avatar

      We all have our quirks, I guess. 🙂 Saving everything on my computer is something I keep meaning to do. If anything ever happens to my WP account it’ll all be lost. Talk about stress!!!

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  11. willowdot21's avatar

    Maybe you are a perfectionist, maybe not, but I think you are perfect!

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  12. S.K. Nicholls's avatar

    I get the feeling that I am not entertaining enough sometimes. My posts tend to be informative and sometimes creative, but not so entertaining, and that is horrible. We love to be entertained, at least I do. That is a large part of why I blog. Problem is…my humor is weird. Some people don’t get it. I feel nervous about putting my funnies out there. Often, I will go ahead and hit the publish button and then go back and edit…many times before anyone has a chance to read it. Not ideal.

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    • Linda G. Hill's avatar

      Oh I have SO done that – written something and then thought, nobody is going to get this! I guess that’s one of the problems we have as writers, with all these worlds we have going on in our heads. 😛

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  13. Bruce Goodman's avatar

    Good stuff! Got me thinking. I read my blog 20/30 times! Often out loud and over several days – even weeks. And often I think it’s not only perfect, but good. Then I post it. Suddenly I see all sorts of errors, and think what a load of unadulterated crap I’ve just posted.

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    • Linda G. Hill's avatar

      But you post every day! How far in advance have you written?
      Anyway, what’s this ‘unadulterated crap’ nonsense? If you’ve written any of that, I certainly haven’t come across it. 🙂

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      • Bruce Goodman's avatar

        I usually like to have two weeks of unadulterated crap in store. I have a pile that I keep rejecting (out of fear because they are too horrifying; not at all funny but a bit too true to life… Keep deleting them and writing them out again…) Anyway – keep up your wonderful blogging which I always enjoy – and I don’t cair to mutch about other’s people’s speling n granma.

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  14. Carrie's avatar

    I’m with you–I spend a lot of time proofreading my posts. My number of drafts is ridiculous sometimes. But I always think I need to change this word or that sentence or what not. It’s funny, because just this morning before I published my post, I was thinking that after 150 posts and almost 2 years of blogging, I still get nervous putting my stuff out there.

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  15. Cookie's avatar

    Ha. My posts are usually verbal diarrhea put into text……perhaps I should catch a little perfectionism!

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  16. Glen Fisher's avatar

    It’s the words that count, not counting words 🙂

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  17. Wordlander's avatar

    I go over and over blog posts. I often plan to schedule in three or four of an evening and only get a couple done. But quality over quantity is good anyway!

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  18. Pamela Beckford's avatar

    We can be too hard on ourselves. I am not with my blog (it isn’t a part of my professional world), but you should see me when I’m at work 😉

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  19. Marie A Bailey's avatar

    Oh, I am definitely a proofreader and a perfectionist, although that still doesn’t keep the odd typo from getting through. I do think if you want to post more, you’ll have to proofread less. Perhaps you should try that with a couple of posts. The imperfections may be in your eyes only 🙂
    When I’m unsure about a post, I just save it and come back to it later if it’s not time-sensitive. Usually another read after a day or two helps me to finish it off and hit Publish. Oh, and yes, I think artists tend to be perfectionists, although our idea of perfectionism may not always be the same as others.

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