My best friend John was talking to me today about a man he works with named Mike. Last night Mike didn’t show up for work; apparently he just found out he has cancer.
Mike is 32 years old, just got married, his wife just had a baby and they just bought a house. The cancer spread from his testicles and is now in his stomach. Nine weeks of chemo await him.
Yesterday, I took a picture of a tree.
I feel lucky to have what I believe is a bunch of open-minded people following my blog. So I ask you, please try to see the connection.
In life, there is so much beauty. While I’m sure Mike is worried as hell for himself and his new family, and it might be impossible at the moment for him to see what he has gained in light of what he has potentially lost, this is what I would advise him, if I knew him: focus on the beauty in every single day.
It’s so much easier for we who are not suffering to see the positive in things. The very last thing I mean to do is be glib. But each and every one of us is dying. Every thing that lives, will die. This is what connects us.
Please, send some positive thoughts out for Mike, and for all who suffer. And don’t forget to look for beauty, everywhere you go.

May 18, 2014 at 3:33 am
“But each and every one of us is dying. Every thing that lives, will die. This is what connects us.”
Therefore, knowing that, we should Live! Now! Today! Not dream of an afterlife. (my two bits)
Great Post Linda.
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May 18, 2014 at 1:21 pm
Agreed! Thanks, Lance. 🙂
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May 17, 2014 at 5:32 pm
I hope he learns the lesson of finding beauty. There will be days that it will be hard to see but I hope he finds joy.
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May 18, 2014 at 1:14 pm
Me too. Thanks, Sue.
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May 16, 2014 at 2:19 pm
That is so beautiful! My thoughts will be with him.
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May 17, 2014 at 10:54 am
Thank you.
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May 16, 2014 at 9:10 am
Mike is in our prayers.
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May 17, 2014 at 10:55 am
Thank you, John.
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May 16, 2014 at 8:51 am
Beautiful reminder, Linda. We are all connected through life and death. As our time is ever approaching, what will we do with the time in between? Love others, appreciate them and remember that just because we may not be hurting at the moment, doesn’t mean someone else isn’t. We’re all connected and should treat each other accordingly. Great post Linda.
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May 17, 2014 at 10:56 am
Thanks very much. It is important to remember to treat each other with kindness. Everyone has a story; everyone has problems. They’re not always apparent, but they are there, nonetheless.
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May 16, 2014 at 7:41 am
My best to Mike and his family. Thanks for posting. Blossoms for you, too, Linda.
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May 17, 2014 at 10:57 am
Thank you, Maggie.
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May 16, 2014 at 7:41 am
I had a breast scan last week because of a lump. Luckily it was just a cyst but it made me think a lot about how I would deal with the diagnosis cancer. I lost my mother to breast cancer and my cousin had and my uncle has cancer. One thing I promised myself is exactly that: To live to the fullest every day no matter what and see the good things. Positivity might just be the greatest healer ever known. My thoughts are with him.
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May 17, 2014 at 11:00 am
Thanks, Bee. I’m so glad you had good news on your test. I agree – it’s so important to stay positive for the sake of health.
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May 17, 2014 at 12:56 pm
Thank you very much, Linda. The older I get the more I realise that. And thanks for your brilliant SoCS prompt…. I enjoyed that thoroughly…
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May 16, 2014 at 4:41 am
Lins you are so right there is so much to be grateful for and sadly it is only when life pulls you up short and wacks you in the face that we relize that ever second and everything is beautiful, wonderful and bloody spectactular! Sadly even after life has given up an almighty poke this truth, clearness of vision call it what you will , the eeling can fade and it is easy to fall into the old moanng, blinkered ways!
I have friends who have survived cancer and whooped it after a long and agressive fights, I also have had friends who have given up for what ever reason and even tried and lost the battle. All I can so to this young man , infact to you , to anyone Fight fight fight live is beautiful and wonderful ….. even when it is not and you are on your uppers or feeling like shit …FIGHT IT OR LOOSE IT! sorry I snook onto the preachy box! Just live and love living just look at what you have in your life Linda you use it like most of us do . I love your tree!! xxxxxxxxxx healing fghting vibes on their way
to Mike and you and anyone who needs them! xx
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May 17, 2014 at 11:02 am
Thanks Willow. You of all people would know how important it is to see the bright side and to keep going, even when things seemed bleak.
Glad you like the tree 🙂
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May 17, 2014 at 11:56 am
I do love your tree! Sorry about the typo on your name .. Linda! not Lins!! 🙂 xxx
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May 17, 2014 at 11:58 am
No problem. I know what you meant. 🙂
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May 17, 2014 at 4:52 pm
🙂
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May 16, 2014 at 1:53 am
Send my best thoughts to Mike and his family. It is important to see the beauty every day Linda 🙂
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May 17, 2014 at 11:03 am
Thank you, Irene.
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May 15, 2014 at 11:43 pm
Sometimes the life can be so cruel but he will survive because he is young and he has a family who needs him. Be strong and positive Mike
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May 17, 2014 at 11:03 am
Thanks, Adrian.
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May 15, 2014 at 10:30 pm
The beauty we can find in life makes the bad journeys just a little bit easier….thoughts to Mike who will now appreciate every single good thing that comes his way……
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May 15, 2014 at 10:32 pm
Thank you. I hope you’re right about Mike.
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May 15, 2014 at 10:14 pm
Prayers out to Mike and his family. Yes, Linda G, I get the connection. A little beauty every day, regardless of the rest of what’s in store.
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May 15, 2014 at 10:16 pm
Beauty is really all we have, in all its forms, whether it’s flowers or family. Thanks, Mark.
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May 15, 2014 at 10:22 pm
Yes, that is so, LInda. Thank you for helping get the word out so others can rally thoughts up your way to MIke, too.
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May 15, 2014 at 10:27 pm
🙂 I do what I can.
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May 15, 2014 at 10:00 pm
Had a fellow Nav get this. Silver lining?: he had a child before his treatment, as he won’t have them afterwards. Think of the male equivalent of a radical mastectomy, but with zero social sympathy or support. Man ❤ for Mike. Stay strong.
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May 15, 2014 at 10:15 pm
Thanks, Nav. That’s one blessing Mike has going for him–that he had a child while he could–and I’m sure he appreciates the fact.
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May 15, 2014 at 10:43 pm
I’m cheering for him.
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May 15, 2014 at 9:42 pm
I truly believe the height of my anxiety (near mental breakdown) was throttled by such a health issue. I do believe I would handle things better now, or at least I’d hope to. It is crucial to have a positive mindset, all the time, but cancer treatment definitely requires it. *sends good thoughts about Mike into the universe*
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May 15, 2014 at 10:10 pm
Thanks, Joey. I do hope he and his family can reach that mindset.
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May 15, 2014 at 9:40 pm
my thoughts are with mike and his family and i understand the connection and gift of fully understanding the beauty in all of life –
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May 15, 2014 at 10:08 pm
Thank you, Beth. It’s a gift I wish everyone had the benefit of.
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May 15, 2014 at 9:36 pm
Good luck to Mike. Positive thoughts.
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May 15, 2014 at 9:37 pm
Thanks, Charles.
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