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#SoCS – Picky


I’m a bit of a perfectionist. Which is an oxymoron in and of itself, because how can you be an imperfect perfectionist? I suppose what it comes down to is some things I absolutely insist on getting perfect and some things I can say it’s good enough and leave it. But not without a lot of internal finger wagging.

I have to wonder how much of my perfectionism I’ve handed down to my kids. It’s really a bit of a disservice, when you think about it. Our kids inherit our fears, our dislikes, our prejudices, and yes, our insistence on getting things right. At least some of our kids do. I suppose it depends on whether you see perfectionism as a positive or a negative.

As I typed the above list of things that our kids inherit, I tried–I really tried–to write something positive, like our love of music or our appreciation for having a clean house, but these things are not always so. Yes, sometimes our kids inherit our positive traits somewhere down the line, but it’s more often they inherit the negative ones. I wonder why that is.

But I digress. Is perfectionism a positive thing or a negative one? I’m thinking it’s positive until it gets in the way of having a sound mind. I can drive myself crazy trying to get something right. But once it’s there, I’m happy with it. It’s a relief.Β  There also comes a point when I know I’m just being picky, which may or may not be a positive thing. It’s easier to let go of a picky point than a perfectionist point.

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33 thoughts on “#SoCS – Picky

  1. Great post. In the final analysis it all comes down to good stewardship, doing the best we can with what we have been given while the responsibility rests with us. When the responsibility is no longer ours it’s time to let go and leave “perfection” for the universe to sort out.


  2. In some ways I wish I were more of a perfectionist as I have often been accused of being a bit careless or gung-ho! πŸ™‚


  3. What interests me more is how and why our kids inherit aka “pick up” behaviors or tendencies from us. We could get into a whole nature vs. nurture debate. Even in my own picky case, did I learn that by watching my mother or is that picky perfectionism part of my DNA?

    When you write this “Our kids inherit our fears, our dislikes, our prejudices, and yes, our insistence on getting things right”.

    Some days because of this I want a do over. I had no idea my kiddos were silent observers to our each and every action. I cringe when I think of what we may have imparted on our Pony Boy and Lulu. And in the next thought I give them full credit – in spite of us not because of us.

    Heady thoughts on this Sunday morning. Awesome post!

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    • I know I do some things in spite of my mother, mostly because I don’t want to be like her in a few aspects. In that sense, it’s obviously not DNA unless DNA can be unlearned. πŸ™‚
      Thanks for your comment. You’ve given me something to think about too. πŸ™‚

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  4. I loved this prompt – even if I had to think a bit to see how “ick” could tie into a very special day in our lives.

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  6. Its our flaws whether or not they be good or bad that endear us to our friends Linda….its the package we all like not the one or two irritating things that drive us to drink…lol


  7. It sounds like you are a perfect blend of both. Sometimes you have to make sure things are done right and other times you have to know when to let things slide. The real key here is to know when to choose which one!


  8. Someone once said “perfect is the enemy of good” – that isn’t the exact quote, but don’t pick. Nice job with the prompt, Linda.

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  9. Imperfect Perfectionist – love it! I think that’s what I am. πŸ™‚

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  10. Interesting post. I had to give up most of my perfectionism so I could stay sane, but I was unable to give it all up, so I have lil insane bits in my brain and I try to hide them, but I believe people are suspicious all the same. It’s like they don’t even know things are crooked or dirty.
    I’ve noticed most people have an area of their lives in which perfectionism comes into play, and often, it’s beneficial. So…I’m gonna say it’s like everything else and it has both a positive and negative side. Now, other people’s perfectionist tendencies are AWFUL and UNBEARABLE, am I right? I once watched my husband paint stripes in the boy’s room and I had to leave until he was done.


  11. It’s good to be picky sometimes πŸ’œ


  12. That’s why in a family, you have balance – my husband will back me up, until I have hit a point where he feels I’m being far too picky that is driving our kids crazy (and he) and tells me “it’s good enough”


  13. It’s good to be a perfectionist about really important things. Like if you’re a doctor or a drug addict staying drug free, but then, we don’t need to beat ourselves up for every mistake, or we’ll go nuts. I tend to run late to many things, but when it comes to job interviews, court, and teacher conferences, I have always been on time – tho I’m thankful not to have those appointments anymore. My house is on the messy side, but I’m a perfectionist about how and when I wash my underwear.


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