As you probably know from my prompt post, I drove to Ottawa yesterday for my son’s dental appointment. To Ottawa and back is a six-hour drive; three there, three back.
I knew it was an assessment appointment to be sure he needed to go under general anesthesia to have his teeth cleaned. It’s not the first time he’ll have had the procedure, so we’ve been to this specific assessment appointment before.
What I didn’t expect was how much of a rush the dentist was in.
The hygienist led us to the examination room before we even sat down in the waiting room, and as Alex got in the chair, she handed me a clipboard and pen with a form to fill out.
The dentist came in, said hello, grabbed a mirror (I assume because I was looking at the form), asked Alex to open his mouth and (I assume) looked inside.
I was just getting to the address portion at the top of the form when the dentist said, “He has a lot of calcium build-up. We’ll get him in to the OR as soon as possible.”
And that was it.
Literally fifteen seconds of looking in his mouth and confirming the trip was worthwhile.
It took me five minutes to fill out the form.
It took me fifteen minutes standing in line to get a coffee.
And six hours of driving to get there and back.
And $60 worth of gas.
If he has to do this again, I might suggest taking a photo.

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May 23, 2026 at 1:24 pm
Not that you need the validation, but I’ll add mine to the others who have commented in a similar way: AUGH!!!! That, indeed, is a frustrating experience.I think part of that frustration for me would be “who do I aim my frustration towards?” Because it doesn’t sound like there was a real *problem* with the office staff or the dentist. Just a lot of hurry up, long drive, all for… this? And then, knowing that probably for insurance/ethical standards the doctor has to see the patient before booking a surgery room, that’s all understandable. So… it is all very “understandable” but… yeah. I’d be wanting to yell at someone or throw something or… something.:hug:
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May 23, 2026 at 1:58 pm
I was more at the “yell at someone or throw something” stage last night. Turned out part of my “revenge” ended up being six hours of sleep. 😂 Thanks for the hug, my dear. That helps too. 🙂
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May 23, 2026 at 12:43 pm
This seems a bit discourteous to me.
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May 23, 2026 at 12:53 pm
I mean, yes and no. I knew it was just to measure the severity of the issue, and it wasn’t the dentist’s fault that I live so far away. But she might have stuck around a bit longer.
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May 23, 2026 at 1:45 pm
Exactly! The humane touch was missing.
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May 23, 2026 at 11:38 am
I can relate. My mammos were 200 miles away, each way, for a two minute squeeze and press.
Don’t get me wrong, it was needed, and I’m here, but totally impractical so I got my notes moved to Lincolnshire. It’s 45 miles now and an hour in the car. Just as well, as with our mobility issues, an hour is our maximum journey length.
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May 23, 2026 at 12:36 pm
So glad to hear you were able to get a closer appointment, Di. 🙂 For us it’s either the mostly highway 3-hour (165 miles door to door) travel to Ottawa, or Toronto, which is an hour closer, but the traffic is hell. None of the closer hospitals will put Alex under with all his heart issues. They deem it too risky.
So while I appreciate the level of care, I do sometimes wish I still lived fifteen minutes from Ottawa. My fault for moving. 😂
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May 23, 2026 at 12:52 pm
I can understand Linda and we have to do what is best for us. We have miles to travel to get anywhere here, banks, optician, vet, hospital, decent supermarkets. Having the second surgery with the same consultant was a given but the follow up mammos could be done here. Should I have a third recurrence, I can opt for her again and we’d do so without a thought.
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May 23, 2026 at 11:15 am
Oh my gosh. I felt every bit of the “arrggg” behind your words. I get it. Where I live is also hours from specialist medical providers. Going to and from is exhausting, expensive, and stressful and that’s just for me. It’s doubly hard for kids and their parents. That’s just awful that you and Alex were treated so cavalierly.
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May 23, 2026 at 12:28 pm
I mean, I wouldn’t have minded if I lived next door to the hospital, but … 🙂
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May 23, 2026 at 10:57 am
I got to my last dental appointment 30 minutes early to wait three hours. 😂
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May 23, 2026 at 12:27 pm
Wow! That’s like an emergency room sort of wait.
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