I often feel like a servant in my own house. Because of their disabilities, there’s a good chance I’ll always have to serve my children, to some extent.
But it’s something we all do, isn’t it? There are times when it’s much easier to do a thing ourselves than take the time to teach the kids to do it. In many cases it’s justified: while in the way out the door to an appointment, or getting ready for school in the morning, when we’re tired and just want to get the thing (whatever it is) over and done with. At some point we need to stop and teach though. We do our kids a disservice by waiting on them hand and foot.
Ah, but it’s so hard to be perfect.
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June 15, 2016 at 1:22 am
Give them a fish or teach them to fish… big dilemma. I’ve got no children – maybe some day – but in my job I teach, I train and sometimes it’s hard not to give the solution but bring people to find it for themselves. It’s slower but more efficient in the long run. But darn it can be challenging. I’ll keep that in mind when/if we’re lucky enough to have little ones.
Thank you for sharing; it is inspiring 🙂
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June 14, 2016 at 9:39 pm
I have two grandchildren with special needs. The autistic boy is always going to need his mother to care for him. The other boy has a condition that should improve with therapies. As a grandmother I am not as involved as my both my daughters are with their disabled sons but I can relate to what you say about being of service to these lads. I heard a man speaking recently about his many years working as a disability worker. He talked about a lad who was severely disabled and said that he came to admire this person for the tremendous sacrifice they had made in being born with such physical and mental disabilities so that we could learn more about love. It was such an unusual perspective it really made me stop and think deeply. I told the story to my daughter with the autistic boy and she said another thing she learning was with her son was patience.
I wish you all strength and courage. I bought up four kids on my own and thought that had it difficult moments. I look at your life and the challenges faced by my daughters and realise I had it easy!
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June 14, 2016 at 8:51 pm
Very true! ❤
Diana xo
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June 14, 2016 at 9:15 pm
😀
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June 14, 2016 at 8:41 pm
I personally know two parents that will for the rest of their lives be of service to their son. They try so hard to teach him but his mind will not let their tender nurturing in. Other parents should indeed take the time and teach their children and realize just how fortunate they are.
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June 14, 2016 at 9:15 pm
I actually live in awe of those who don’t realize how lucky they are, for they are twice as lucky not to even have to contemplate it. 🙂
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June 14, 2016 at 6:11 pm
Agreed Linda.
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June 14, 2016 at 7:01 pm
🙂
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June 14, 2016 at 5:54 pm
Agree agree agree! I’m so guilty of doing the same Linda… Yet I will think I should give them the opportunity to foster that independence….
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June 14, 2016 at 7:01 pm
It’s difficult for everyone – sometimes I think it’s worse for us parent’s though. 😛
Best of luck with it, Ritu! 🙂
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June 14, 2016 at 10:46 pm
And as an aunt, whenever I do it (by not waiting on them) consciously, I have a feeling at the back of the mind, if my siblings would see my act as a little too harsh on their kids.
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June 15, 2016 at 1:46 am
You too Linda! 😊
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