Linda G. Hill

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#SoCS – Hairy

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Parenting is fun, isn’t it? Especially when you have to deal with a behavior-challenged child. Like mine. But I got the perfect teaching moment today, so I decided to go with it.

We’ve been having an issue with Alex bullying the dog. Luckily Winston is extremely patient and tolerant to having his ears pulled, his tail yanked on, being pinched, punched and kicked. I have a hard time dealing with it most of the time because it’s difficult to find anything to really punish Alex with that makes an impact. Until today.

He was waiting to go on his beloved bus ride around town. We were sitting together on the couch, both involved in what we were each doing. When Alex thought I wasn’t looking, he reached out and pinched the dog. For absolutely no reason whatsoever – the dog was sleeping beside him. I told him to stop – he looked me right in the eye and did it again. So that was it. No bus ride.

Alex cried. And cried and cried. He tried stroking Winston, he tried apologizing to both of us, but no. I stuck to my guns and told him if he was nice all day to the dog, I’d let him go on his bus ride tomorrow.  So he cried and sobbed, and choked on his own spit… then he kicked the dog, hard enough to make him yelp. No bus tomorrow, and he had to go up to his room.

Now his room is another story altogether. I have to take his little tv and his dvd player/vcr out of there, along with his lamp because I never know what he’s going to break next, and those are the things I can’t afford. The good news is — yes, there is some good news — he has learned the hard way not to break his movies. I have to admit that it hurt to let him do it. I made sure I took the ones out I really wanted to keep (this was months ago) and I just let him smash them. Standing outside his room listening to my money getting ready for the garbage was one of the most painful but teachable moments I’ve ever had with him.

And so I’m hoping this weekend’s lack of bus rides will be as well. The poor dog is such a lovely creature. Suffice to say though, today has been hairy.

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15 thoughts on “#SoCS – Hairy

  1. You are a strong mama, Linda. Kids who struggle with behavior issues are *exhausting* sometimes (they don’t call them challenges for nothing), but just keep digging in and doing the right thing. I’m so proud of you for sticking to your rules. Winston is a living creature, and showing your son he’s worth kindness is a lesson that transfers. ((hugs))

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  2. Sorry I missed this post earlier. You’ve got a tough job and you’re awesome at it. Hang in there! Hugs to everyone, including the dog.

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  3. I’m hoping it was a learning moment for him. You’re doing the right thing. Keep it up.

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  4. I hope it works. It sounds like it might. :/

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  5. That sounds so hard. Not just making the punishment decision, but having this as a situation at all. Parenting is the toughest job in the world, isn’t it?

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  6. It is hard enough being a parent to an awkward child who has no behavioural problems I can only guess how hard it is for you. You sound to be doing the right things the right way! ….. If it is any help …or maybe not just had a big blow out with our middle son… 42yrs left home and “normal” …… 🙂 ❤

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  8. This is so tough on you Linda. I am always worried about my daughter with the dog as she is extremely jealous of her.
    We are going through some very tricky times at school and at home with her at the moment (she is 13) and like you, I have difficulty in finding a punishment that works.Oh, and she loves smashing things up as well!
    I hope that your son has learned his lesson, and I hope that you are ok too. I know how hard it is raising a child with behavioural problems and you have to do it on your own. Sending you hugs, Linda. 💖💖💖

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  9. My son has been going through a tough time recently especially at school, we are stuck in limbo, waiting for autism assessment, everyone who comes in contact with my son sees the traits but without the official diagnosis actual assistance at school is limited, a bad day at school rolls over into home and the stresses of consequences are sometimes hard to handle, we get through each day as best we can and get up hoping the next day will be better, sending love and hugs from one mum to another xx

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  10. These must be hard descions to make, but you seem to reason it all out. I don’t know how.

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  11. Its a tough gig for you Linda, but sticking to your guns no matter how painful will work out for you both in the long term….I hope..

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  12. Sounds like a tough way to teach a lesson… but sometimes we have to, especially as parents.
    You gotta be cruel to be kind, you know.

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  13. Kudos to you! Sounds like it was a hard moment , of which I’m sure there are many. ( My niece is nonverbal and without notice, takes her frustration out in ways she knows not to…gets her in trouble every time.)
    Sending major respect your way for your creative discipline technique!

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  14. Aw, well, you did the right thing. Lessons are sometimes tough on the teacher and the pupil but it’s worth it if the message gets through.

    -hugs

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