You’re lining up to cash out at the grocery store. There’s a guy in his mid-twenties behind you and a woman in front of you. The woman is arguing with a child who wants a chocolate bar. You think to yourself, just buy it and shut the kid up. The guy behind you says as much under his breath but loud enough for you to hear. Which one of these people do you relate to? If you actually thought, just buy it… then it’s the guy behind you. On the surface you are in cahoots. But if you’re a parent, you probably thought, that poor woman, and chances are you relate to her on a deeper level. Why? Because you probably share experiences.
I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that the things which connect us as human beings are that which we relate to when we read a book. The more we can relate, and get into the mind of the protagonist or even the antagonist, the more we’ll enjoy the novel.
Back to my scenario at the beginning. Assuming you’re a parent, you can probably understand on some level what it’s like to have a child who, at one time or another, acted out. Yes, there are people out there with perfectly behaved children in public. Perhaps they only go out on days that the sun shines. I have no idea. But not to belabor the point, let’s go instead to the guy standing behind you. If you agreed with him then you can relate, but only to a point. His situation and his attitude aren’t as obvious as the harried mother’s. But that doesn’t mean you can’t write a book he’d be interested in reading. It probably wouldn’t have children in it. Then again, the mother’s ideal novel probably wouldn’t either. She’s looking for an escape.
So is the solution to never put kids into your novels? Maybe. Or maybe you just need to think about who is going to relate to your characters–their lives and their emotions–to find your target audience.
Things are coming to a head in the story of Jupiter and Xavier! Have a read – just click here: http://lindaghillfiction.wordpress.com/2014/04/23/t-is-for-the-tux/
April 24, 2014 at 7:15 pm
Did you read The Everlasting Story of Nory? That is a charming book for adults, told from a child’s pov.
I’m writing one book with a child in it. She’s here and there, not a main character. I assume all readers have met a child here and there…
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April 24, 2014 at 7:26 pm
Assume nothing, my dear. 🙂
I haven’t read the book you mention, but Lovely Bones was a memorable story told from a child’s POV. I think any story, told well, can be related to by most people. My question is how deeply?
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April 24, 2014 at 7:49 pm
I do not know. Write many books and tell us 🙂
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April 24, 2014 at 7:51 pm
Haha! I shall. 🙂
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April 24, 2014 at 11:41 am
Great scenario for a story and definitely authentic as real life. Thanks for the read. You write so well!
Best,
Deb@ http://debioneille.blogspot.com
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April 24, 2014 at 7:05 pm
Thanks so much, Deb 🙂
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April 24, 2014 at 4:50 am
Awesome write up…..u havent yet checked out my posts…disappointed
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April 24, 2014 at 7:02 pm
Thank you. 🙂
I’ve been quite busy trying to keep up with all the people I know who are doing the A-Z this month – not enough of me to go around!
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April 23, 2014 at 7:39 pm
Maybe that story should be told from the kid’s point of view 😉 That’s the way I find stories with kids to be the most interesting. If he has his own point of view then he’s not simply the screaming brat at the grocery store, right?
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April 24, 2014 at 6:45 pm
Agreed! 🙂
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April 23, 2014 at 6:07 pm
Strange. I caught myself thinking that the child making the ruckus was suffering from a mild vitamin “S” deficiency. It is a condition which is easily remedied. }:-)>
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April 24, 2014 at 6:44 pm
Sunshine? I thought that was vitamin D. Perhaps some vitamin “S-D”? 😛
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April 23, 2014 at 5:04 pm
Great way of using that scenario, really could feel myself there. I’m not sure I agree with the conclusion though – I could relate to a lot of characters who were different from me on the surface: mothers, widows, older, younger, even males 🙂 It’s all about how much the writer could draw me in. Much like you did with the post!
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April 24, 2014 at 6:41 pm
Thanks, Miss Andi 🙂 There are all kinds of things we can relate to – as humans we’re not all that different. But I do think the characters we enjoy reading the most are the ones whose experience we share. Experience ‘speaks’ to us in a different way than emotion – as does desire.
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April 23, 2014 at 3:59 pm
I think that is too much thinking for my head this morning lol
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April 23, 2014 at 4:29 pm
I understand, Sue. All too well. 😉
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April 23, 2014 at 4:48 pm
Glad I’m not the only one then 🙂
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April 24, 2014 at 6:38 pm
🙂
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April 23, 2014 at 2:22 pm
I really like this real life example, I think it illustrates your point perfectly. Well written. 🙂
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April 23, 2014 at 2:37 pm
Thank you, Mr. Embers. 🙂 I wasn’t sure if it was too obscure, actually.
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April 23, 2014 at 2:09 pm
Sure, your ideal novel would have children in it, and both that guy and that woman would be interested because you would write it exactly the way you’ve written this post. I personally can relate to your scenario. I recall being in line, with an infant having a temper tantrum, and a older gentleman came up and whispered, “You meet the strangest people in the grocery store.” I never did figure out exactly what that meant, but I’m sure it wasn’t meant as a compliment.
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April 23, 2014 at 2:12 pm
Sounds to me as though the guy who whispered in your ear was the strange one! Creepy! hehe
Thanks for reading, CM. 🙂
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