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Everybody’s Different

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Diversity is a wonderful thing, isn’t it? Well, not always.

If you’re at all sociable: whether you go out of the house, or stay in and spend your days on the internet, you’re bound to meet someone who gets on your nerves. I remember when my ex and I started dating. Everything was flowers and wine and laughter… and then I found out he was a morning person. I, on the other hand, am not one for more than a grunt if you’re lucky before my first coffee, so the singing coming from the direction of the shower was enough to set my teeth on edge.

While that wasn’t actually painful, I do now at times feel physical discomfort when I come across someone whose nature is completely different to mine. Take, for instance, people who live in a constant state of drama. I have enough real life problems to even consider worrying about who has pissed off whom and how they’re going to badmouth them until everyone else hates them. And it happens everywhere! Social media, high schools, offices and even old-age homes.

What I don’t understand is, why do people do this to themselves? Why can’t people just live and let live? So what if so-and-so is pissing you off? Ignore them. Don’t let them pull you into their world of misery. I certainly didn’t let my ex get the best of me with his early morning glee, and since he was still serenading the shower head when we broke up, I sure didn’t do anything to stifle him. Then again, maybe by that time he was doing it just to get on my nerves.

I know I’ve said it before, and I’m sure I’ll say it again: life is too short. I think if we can all accept that not everyone is the same as us, that we all have our quirks, our opinions, and our preferences in life, we could all be so much happier.

Stop trying to change people. Embrace their differences. Just not necessarily in the shower.

Author: Linda G. Hill

There's a writer in here, clawing her way out.

33 thoughts on “Everybody’s Different

  1. Here Here!!!!!! ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  2. I have a theory that those that would lead otherwise ‘boring’ lives have a need to instill drama into them to keep some base sort of cognitive puzzle going, in order to keep their brains healthy. I haven’t found, or I’ve forgotten finding, any science to back this up, but it’s what my gut tells me! ๐Ÿ˜›

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  3. How bloody true. I’m currently gritting my teeth at the reaction to a Twain quote I put on FB. It was the wife of a friend and, as always, she thought it was saying something negative. It was the quote about voting, that if it changed anything, they wouldn’t let us do it. She read it as me saying we shouldn’t vote. I believe Twain was merely stating reality as he saw it. ‘Dangerous,’ she said. ‘Carry on voting,’ she said. Yes, she’s entitled to her own opinion but why is it always a negative slant? Rant over!

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  4. Man, I understand how you feel!

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  5. Great post Linda ๐Ÿ˜‰
    We need to remember that the only person we can chance is ourself. We don’t wish that other people are changing us either.
    Those who need drama in their lives may have a very boring life inside. The same with people who talk bad about others.

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  6. Amen, cannot agree more! Dealt with more of this on social media in the last month than I care to experience for the rest of my internet life. If people go looking for drama… they will always find it.

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  7. Love this! I used to be a social person…now I am not. It seems the people I tend to interact with are just like you wrote about engulfed in drama. To battle it all I have turned into an introvert. Much calmer existence for me.

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  8. My buddy’s wife is a drama llama. He understands he has to treat it as horribly as she does and to play into it. He can’t defuse it. If he does so, it’s done within a day. If he tries to help and defuses it, she’ll find new drama because her quota wasn’t met. Usually new drama had to do with him since he was the last thing she saw since her drama was interrupted.

    While not a morning person, I do sing in the shower ๐Ÿ˜ฆ We’ll never work out, Linda. I weep.

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  9. I think you touch upon a few things in this dense little post. and while there are times when we are little annoyed – like maybe still waking up or just needing space – there times there are personality traits that DO rub us the wrong way. And when you note the “drama” well we recently were just talking about a 35 year old lady who will not grow up – she is demanding and acts like a child – and is always complaining – and well, I will be cordial and nice – but just cannot meet up with them for dinners any more – “grates on the nerves” – and you are right – life is too short – and so thankfully we get to pick certain circlesโ€ฆ. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • My writing does tend to be on the dense side, doesn’t it? I’m a woman of few words, it seems. ๐Ÿ˜›
      Yes, we who are lucky do get to pick who we interact with. Don’t get to pick family though ๐Ÿ˜›

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    • well I am still such a new follower so I am not sure if I would call your writing dense or not – but I do know that I like the flow and you write so naturally – and well, you are right we do not get to pick family – but even then we can draw needed boundaries – whewwwwโ€ฆ.. well I hope you have a good rest of the week –

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  10. Opposites attract? Works for magnets, but not everywhere in physics! I’m all fir ‘live and let live’. If you don’t like someone, keep away!

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  11. I know what you mean about the drama. It can be very wearing on the nerves. But diversity does make the world a much richer place for all of us.
    Leslie

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  12. I wonder that all the time. Maybe people are unhappy with what they are and want to change others to be like them as a form of justification.

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  13. I’m not a morning person either. And I agree with the constant state of drama too, some people just never stop with the impending doom, something is always wrong and funnily enough it is never their fault.

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