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I Know What I Want


There are people in the world whose words are consistent with their actions and there are people who say one thing and then do another. Okay yes, there are times that the former type lapse into the latter, just as I’m sure there are people who are almost constantly doing things contrary to what they say might be tempted to actually do what they say. But it’s the latter type I see as not really knowing what they want out of life.

Of the latter type there seem to be two sub-types, as it were. There are those who say they’re going to do something and then never do. (We’re all guilty of that occasionally though, aren’t we? I was going back to school in September… ha. Maybe next year.) And there are those who say they feel a certain way but their actions don’t match. Take, for instance, a person who says he wants to meet, in person, a friend who he met online. He might say, “I’d love to get together,” but then always finds an excuse not to. Or a woman who is cheating on her husband: at night she may come home and tell him she loves him, and would go to the ends of the earth for him, but the moment he leaves the house in the morning she’s having it off with the pool boy.

Lying to the people around oneself aside, the dishonesty in these kinds of actions must take a toll on the psyche. In the case of the woman – does she want the happy life she portrays with her husband? Or is freedom what she really wants? Likely she has no real idea, so she juggles both, possibly while she attempts to figure it out. Even in the less life-altering case of the man, the stress of having to keep up the appearance of wanting something he doesn’t really want (which is shown in his actions) has to come with some kind of cost. The cost is in energy and on the conscience.

I strive to match my words with my actions as much as I possibly can. I try to be honest with myself, even if I can’t always be honest with everyone I meet. (Of course that hairdo looks wonderful on you!) In being honest with myself and for the important things with other people, I feel that I am able to know what it is I want in my life.

Do you know what you want? What you really really want?

Author: LindaGHill

There's a writer in here, clawing her way out.

26 thoughts on “I Know What I Want

  1. No is the short answer. But then the thoughts I have are free of the imperfections of life. I want that perfect job (and in my minds eye I see the office which is just a place where you want to be, the people that are all oh so wonderfull, the location which is trendy and close to home so on that aspect I know what I want (to have) but the image is too perfect for it to exist.

    In your example about the woman, perhaps she wants both The husband that provides great security, but the pool boy is better in bed, she know what she wants, but different people provide that want.

    I wish I were better though, at the planning the course through life thing. Goals to aim for etc, I think they are good things, although I’ve never done it, so I guess I am kinda like your second person, only I don’t say I am going to do it, at least to no one accept myself. But I guess that is just as bad πŸ™‚


  2. I think this is a really valuable insight here. It does not only speak to knowing what you want, but maybe even to admitting to yourself that you can’t have everything. If you try to keep everything for yourself you are going to end up with nothing.


  3. I have some experiences with these very things . . . often people’s words don’t match their actions . . .
    Great post!! (And yes, I know what I want, just not always sure how to attain it πŸ™‚ )


  4. I thought I knew. But too many compromises and life changing situations happened and now honestly I simply exist. I think when I start living I would know again πŸ™‚


  5. Hi, Linda, good to see you! I am constantly challenged to be careful with my words, especially in the form of promises, because often I speak of what I feel or intend too quickly then I realize that I’m unable to fulfill my words through action. But, I’m getting better with practice. And, you can tell me that my new do looks fab even if there is a bit of a white lie in there πŸ™‚ Have a great weekend.


    • Oh Angie, you always look fab!! πŸ™‚
      I think we all stick our foot in it with the best of intentions once in a while. All part of being human. It’s doing it intentionally that becomes a problem.
      Hope you have a great weekend too! πŸ™‚

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  6. I am afraid that what I want is not wanting enough. I am afraid, after missing so many opportunities, that I will miss another. I am trying to be involved, engaged, positive. I suppose I am fighting a conditioning and an anxiety. I am trying to want what I think I should want, not what I actually want, which is not much at all.


  7. I know what I want, but I have also accepted that sometimes what you want isnt what you need or even what you should have.


  8. I know what I want – well, I tell myself that – but my fear lies in the thought that maybe I want the “wrong” things :/


    • Yes, there’s always that, isn’t there? I’ve been there many times myself and still struggle with it at times. Sometimes it just has to come in small steps until we can see the big picture. πŸ™‚


  9. I do also try to do as I talk to, even sometimes it is more easy than other times. Maybe it is a goal and need some time to get through.

    I know some goals I have, but I try to live most possible in the moment. So I do also let life show me the possiblities, so I have time to change my goals several times.


    • Going with the flow is a worthy goal in and of itself I think. The opposite would be making plans that you know you can’t live up to.
      As always, I think you’ve got the right idea, Irene. πŸ™‚ Thanks for your comment.


  10. I know what I really want, and the several other things I’d be prepared to settle for instead. It’s getting them that has proven to be the problem for 49 years. Maybe you should write a blog post inviting commenters to state bluntly and plainly what they really want, just so we can all compare notes. Or maybe I should write it.


    • I don’t know that any would get that personal. πŸ˜› But you could give it a try. πŸ™‚
      Sometimes getting what we really want does prove difficult if not impossible. But knowing is surely the first step, and then taking strides towards getting it the next. πŸ™‚ Thanks for your input, Kheleya. πŸ™‚


  11. I think we are all a mixture of both types. It’s hard not to fall prey to one of these subtypes you mentioned. We all have and are somewhat aware of our desires, but most of the aftermath has to do with willingness. Great post…very well-written thoughts.


    • A willingness to act on our true desires, exactly. And I agree, it’s likely impossible to go all the way through life without being confused enough sometimes to say and do different things. You have a good point there.
      Thanks so much for the comment and your kind words. πŸ™‚

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