Linda G. Hill

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A Rant about Memes

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Facebook is littered with them – memes which state that if you care about something you must prove it by re-posting a picture with a bunch of often grammatically incorrect sentences or misspelled words. Things like, “If you want cancer to cured, re-post this in the next twenty seconds,” or “Share if you think animals have rights too.” Of course I want a cure for cancer to be found, and I certainly can’t stand to hear about animals being mistreated, but I never re-post these things – I don’t feel that I need to prove the way I feel to anyone.

But the one that really gets me are the “children with special needs need to be treated like anyone else” memes.

Like this one:

1517440_10205983584770964_93714871328423065_nNo. No, no, no, no, no. I won’t re-post this on Facebook. (Yes, I know it’s going to show up in my feed when I publish this blog post, but at least it’ll have an explanation with it.)

Do I want people to be aware that kids with special needs need to be treated just like everyone else? Yes. Do I want to be guilted into posting this because it shows I have “a strong heart”? No. Do I sound ungrateful right now? Maybe.

I don’t feel that I need a strong heart in order to love my two kids with special needs, and I don’t think anyone else requires a particularly strong heart to care about them. They just need to be observant and kind. Treating any human being with kindness is a simple matter of compassion and at least an attempt to understand. No one has to prove themselves as far as I’m concerned, unless actually confronted with a situation in which they can provide a smile or at least refrain from saying or doing something nasty.

I mean seriously, how far does one of these Facebook memes go? If someone is confronted with an uncomfortable situation in a public place where an Autistic adult walks up to them and begins to talk about his or her imaginary friend, does the poster of the meme remember they posted it and take it to heart? No. The last thing on someone’s mind in this situation is Facebook.

Rather than posting a meme, learn something. Take the time to think about what you’d do. Read articles written by the parents of a special needs child and take their advice. Being guilted into posting on Facebook is useless unless you know what it means.

Ungrateful rant finished.

Author: LindaGHill

There's a writer in here, clawing her way out.

57 thoughts on “A Rant about Memes

  1. I love memes but I agree with you about memes like this. I hate the ‘I know which of my friends will repost this’ ones. I purposely don’t repost them. It’s not that I don’t care about cancer, disabilities, depression or any number of causes because I do. Anyone who reads my blog would know that. So why should I prove that to someone by reposting something as meaningless as that on my FB feed?

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  2. ❀ "Nuff said. πŸ™‚

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  3. No, I don’t think you sound ungrateful, these memes are a pain in the arse, they are in all shapes and sizes for all different things. I don’t share or repost them either although I may have done in the past. I am almost as annoyed with the mugs… erm I means my friends and relations that get suckered into doing them. I actually do wonder are they gullible enough to think that I don’t actually care if I don’t repost or share it.

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    • I would hope not. πŸ˜› Thanks for putting in your two cents. They really do bug the hell out of me sometimes.

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      • It is one of the reasons I rarely use facebook. I’ve no interest in the minute by minute details of someone’s breakfast/day/life.

        It is either an entire big brother experience where you get told all those details, or it is a place to post funnies (or memes).

        I tend to just use it as a large address book for people I know, I glance at it maybe once every 2 days.

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  4. I totally agree with you! Compassion and understanding are rare birds right now… 😯

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  5. I created that meme like I said I would in my comment of a few days ago, above. Here’s a link to it: http://wp.me/p5HGYp-2d.

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  7. I need a strong heart to read 90% of the crap on Facebook. Here is my Meme pass it on (oops sorry) “Repost this if you think re-posting this kind of crap takes a strong heart or a weak mind.” heh heh heh

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  8. I have never understood the “let’s see who posts this” kinda thing. I am quite capable of loving my dog, my cats, my husband, my parents, my children and my country without memes.
    I find the “Jesus is watching to see if you’ll share this” to be the worst.
    Great post!

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  9. A Prompt is the same thing? No?

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  10. Those things are called Memes? I call them the new fashioned chain letters. I hate the ones telling you to repost if you believe in God. I don’t need anyone to tell me this crap. God won’t give me BAD LUCK if I don’t post!

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  11. I agree with you 100%. I never share/repost those, I also hate how they often will have a negative statement attached, such as: I know only 10% of you care enough to share. Ugh seriously, how about we just live our lives with kindness and generosity? I out-grew feeling the need to fulfill dares back in grade school and despise feeling manipulated/coerced to do something. It’s just a new form of bullying really.

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  12. When I was young and received a chain letter, I didn’t know what to do with it. My grandfather did. He just took it from me and threw it in the waste basket. I agree with you that I don’t want to be “guilted” into taking action by re-posting. I would rather donate to worthy causes.

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  13. I don’t respond to or redistribute any of these things anywhere. I will post a link to this blog on Twitter because it makes sense. I feel strongly about thinks that makes sense, are well researched and are written in a way that I understand. Hmm, you seem to have met the criteria. Thank you.

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    • Thank you, Dan. πŸ™‚ I’m glad I was able to touch on something that makes sense to you. πŸ™‚

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      • Most of those posts on FB are put there in order to boost someones metrics for social media activity. “Ooh, something I posted was shared 5,000 times” – yeah but it was a post that said “share if we shouldn’t hurt this puppy.” It’s very hard to separate the real support from the sensational and the ones trying to game the algorithm so it was a pleasure to try to amplify the truth.

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  14. I too find such these chainletter things utterly patronising. I mean really, acceptance takes a “strong heart”?? Well that’s completely missing the point of what acceptance is; which is about being yourself, being ordinary – regardless of who you are with.

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    • Exactly. One doesn’t need a strong heart; it’s respect that makes the difference, and my point is, it’s more difficult to respect something one doesn’t understand.
      Thanks very much for your comment. πŸ™‚

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  15. I do repost this sort of thing, but I do agree with you that they are most irritating. I think on many occasions they belittle the point they are trying to put across.
    I can hold my hand up and say I have actually repost one very similar to this, on more than one occasion, but I always comment that all children are actually odd and weird, and disability or not, all human beings are in fact unique!

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    • It’s true – everyone has their own peculiarities; that’s an important thing to recognize and the first step to actually accepting and respecting those who act differently than what is considered the “social norm.” Thanks very much for your comment. πŸ™‚

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  16. I side with you Linda. I grew up in a family with an elderly sister born with both arms bent half of mine. During pregnancy, my mother had taken that drug for nauseas, thalidomide, which caused that.
    I have a nephew with Asperges.
    I worked with autistic children when I finished studying clinical psychology.
    So, I have empathy for your feelings. We don’t need superpowers but love, compassion, and acceptance. The world outside mostly doesn’t grasp that word acceptance and treat them as aliens. Education is the only help.

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  17. Couldn’t agree more with your sentiments! And that’s coming from one who creates memes once in awhile. Mine are more inspirational though(at least in my mind they are) and not the stupid guilty heart string tug type.

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    • I don’t have a problem with the inspirational ones, nor with the funny ones. They’re there to make you think and provide a giggle, respectively; I re-post them occasionally.
      Thanks very much for your comment, Tricia. πŸ™‚

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  18. I agree. I’ve designed a few memes in my day, and now I’m thinking of designing one that says, “If you hate chain-memes, prove it by sharing this with your friends.”

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  19. I’m with you. I always look at those and think, “well, yeah, of course I care,” but I don’t like the chainletter feel of them, and so I don’t repost. I think you’re right – education on any of the subjects brought up in these memes is probably best.

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  20. I could understand sharing these things if they linked to further information or to a site that took donations for research related to the topic. Otherwise, they’re just chain letters for the digital age.

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    • Chain letters – that’s just what they are. And you’re right, it would be so easy to even have a url on them for people to check out. That might make a difference.
      Thanks for your input. πŸ™‚

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  21. I don’t do those things either……I pass on very little if anything. No need to prove myself or prove I love or care about anyone of anything

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    • Precisely. Thanks for this, Ann. πŸ™‚

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      • Of=or. I wish there was a way to edit errors in comments on here……maybe there is but just not on phone?

        Sometimes on the kind of post you refer to I will private message someone on Facebook or send a private reply to the email I received that wants me to find 10 or 20 people to email (including sending back to the one who emailed me!) to explain why I will not pass something on, but I do that only if I feel a very strong need to with that particular person. Otherwise, I just ignore them. A public post like yours is a good idea.

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  22. Reblogged this on chrllrobb and commented:
    Very thought provoking post.

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  23. Very well said. Sometimes I do repost because I feel guilty if I don’t.

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  24. Yep, I agree as well and couldn’t have said it better myself!! Gonna reblog this one.

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  25. Absolutely i agree, since my wife passed all I’ve been seeing on my timeline are memes about cancer or about loved ones in heaven or share if you believe in God,Jesus, Angels etc…. honestly… it’s aggravating !! come on I know my wife is gone I don’t need the constant reminder, I’m trying to move forward and raise our son, not sit back and wallow in sorrow and guilt! memes drive me up the tree on so many levels lol

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  26. Reblogged this on Speak Through Your Heart and Your Mind Will Follow and commented:
    I don’t have to post a picture to prove anything. My views are my views and it’s too bad if you don’t like it

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  27. I love you, Linda and I absolutely, 100% agree with you! I don’t like them either.

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  28. I agree absolutely 100%. May I share?

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  29. I agree with you totally. We know how we feel, we know our children are special we don’t have to prove anything.

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