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What would you teach?

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I often wish that I could teach people not to sweat the small stuff. I can’t stand watching people walk around with their minds so focused on trivial matters, that they’re unable to see the big picture.

So what if that guy just stole your parking spot? At least you didn’t have to take the bus with all your children, your strollers, and bags of groceries once you’re finished shopping. What’s the problem with getting the blue ipod when you wanted the black one? At least you have one. How does it matter that you listened to someone at the next table complain about their food? Did you enjoy yours? Then stop eavesdropping!

Don’t get me wrong – it’s not really the complaining that bothers me. If that was the problem, I would be just as bad as they are. It’s the fact that small things stress a lot of people out. Getting one’s blood pressure up, in my opinion, had better come with a whole lot of real problems. Yes, all the little ones can add up. We all have days like that. But even then, don’t dwell! It’ll put you into an early grave… and who wants to die over a chipped fingernail?

I think we all have something that we’ve learned from experience, that we wish we could give the benefit of to others so that they don’t have to learn the way we did: the hard way.

So tell me in the comments: of all your personal life lessons, what would you teach the people around you, if you could?

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Author: Linda G. Hill

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60 thoughts on “What would you teach?

  1. joey's avatar

    “Spend your life lifting people up, not putting them down.” My good friend Kathy Frye used to say that all the time. So wise.

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  2. suzjones's avatar

    I would teach them that life goes on. Regardless of how much we think the world is collapsing in on us, the sun will continue to rise each day.

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  3. LAMarcom's avatar

    I’m with deepbluesandseafoamgreens:
    “I would Emphasize on generosity.”
    And I would teach people not to be cheap. I hate cheap. Leave good respectful tips to servers. Tip the guy who carries your bags to your room. Say ‘Thank you’ a lot. Greet people with a smile. Be generous with good manners and kindness.

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  4. Widow Beach's avatar

    One thing I’d say to all those girls/young woman spending huge amounts of money and time on “looking pretty, attractive, sexy”–is that it can be a very bad investment; cultivate the inner beauty and it will serve you much better throughout your lifetime–you’ll attract more decent, genuine people who will love you for authentic, lasting reasons.

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  5. willowdot21's avatar

    Life is too short, Sorry often does mean sorry, A hug goes a long way, a smile never hurts ! and be kind to eachother!

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  6. Angie Mc's avatar

    I would encourage the members of families to enjoy each other’s company. Those perceived slights and annoyances you describe, Linda, could be time spent doing something fun or lovely or thoughtful or kind or silly or… 🙂 Great post, Linda & happy weekend!

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  7. MishaBurnett's avatar

    If your feelings are in conflict with the facts then your feelings are wrong. It doesn’t matter how much you want to believe that something is true, follow the evidence no matter where it leads. I think that more problems are caused by people “following their hearts” than anything else.

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    • Linda G. Hill's avatar

      I agree with this to an extent. Inasmuch as people follow their hearts, I think, deep down, they know what is right but choose what they want, rather than what they really believe to be true. But maybe we’re saying the same thing in a different way. 😉
      Very thought-provoking answer, Misha. Thanks for this. 🙂

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  8. KG's avatar

    To keep the head straight and to laugh and smile when things get tough. I know lot of people get pissed with me when I find humor in difficult situations but what they don’t known is, that is what keeps me sane 🙂

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    • Linda G. Hill's avatar

      Ah, I can so relate. There are so few things in life that humour can’t be a part of. And yes, me too. If I didn’t laugh, I’d cry half the time.
      Thanks for the reminder of this, KG. 🙂

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  9. Paul Davis's avatar

    I know what I want to teach you 😉 Otherwise creativity and problem solving.

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  10. vw1212's avatar

    nagging can really drag you down. try being around someone who complains when you are in a good mood and see how long you feel good. 🙂

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  11. onechicklette's avatar

    Great food for thought.

    When I hear people arguing, I want to ask them “what’s the point here?” Sometimes it seems like they’re just trying to ‘win’ versus caring about getting to consensus.

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    • Linda G. Hill's avatar

      Competition is important to some–to the point that it can be unhealthy, especially in relationships. Wouldn’t it be great to just get them to relax and see the other’s point of view? Nice one. 🙂

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  12. IreneDesign2011's avatar

    I think, that the best way to teach other people, are to be a good example yourself. Show how it is possible to stay smiling and positive, even the life also can make us feel down sometimes.
    Irene

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    • Linda G. Hill's avatar

      I agree, Irene. You can talk until you’re blue in the face and people won’t listen. But show them how much better their life can be by setting an example and they’ll sometimes catch on. 🙂
      Great point!

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  13. mewhoami's avatar

    I feel this same way. Never have I understood why people get in such a tizzy over small things. Who cares? Will it matter in 5 years? No. Aside from that, the lesson I would share would be “Be yourself”. It makes life much easier and being unique is a wonderful thing.

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  14. Susan Irene Fox's avatar

    In the immortal words of John Lennon, “Love is all there is.”

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  15. Jenni's avatar

    Don’t lie to yourself – others if you must (not usually a good idea) but do not lie to yourself. Trust me life will be much less painful once you learn to do that. Not excuse or reason or persuade or confess just admit inside yourself what it is you are doing, what motivates you even if, and actually especially if it is not necessarily ‘nice’.

    Admit jealousy to yourself or whatever nasty secret of why you really don’t want to do something or go somewhere or see someone – you don’t have to tell anyone else but it will put you on firmer ground in situations that were normally fraught.

    Once you are at one with yourself then choices are much less fraught and a huge amount of emotional mess can often be avoided. Took me too long and I’ll pay for that in life lost but I am who I am now even all the not so nice parts I see and acknowledge.

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    • Linda G. Hill's avatar

      An excellent lesson, Jen. Being honest with yourself really puts things in perspective, doesn’t it? From there, there are so many things we can teach ourselves.
      Thanks very much for the reminder. 🙂

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  16. S.K. Nicholls's avatar

    Gratitude. Like you said about being grateful your not taking the bus. I get up every morning and review my gratitude list for the day. Helps keep the big picture in focus. Life is really what you make it.

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  17. deepbluesandseafoamgreens's avatar

    I would Emphasize on generosity. I do these small things, and when people see me do them, they ask “why go the extra mile” or “why?” It’s so simple. There’s nothing wrong in being generous.
    I’m not saying I’m great or anything, I just wish it wasn’t such a petty problem.

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    • Linda G. Hill's avatar

      Oh yes. Very good point. There are people who appreciate that little bit extra out there– just a smile or holding the door open, can make a world of difference to someone having a hectic day. Generosity of spirit is something widely lacking in society, and something every one of us should practice. 🙂

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  18. Charles Yallowitz's avatar

    To calm down and realize that there’s more to a career than a paycheck. I think too many people gauge success by the money you make instead of what you actually accomplish.

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  19. Pamela Beckford's avatar

    I couldn’t agree more. Being positive doesn’t mean we never complain. It’s finding the bright spots. I try to do that every day. Some days are easier than others. But I follow some blogs where there are very few bright spots. Just all the negative things in every single thing. Makes me sad for them.

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