There are times when I just can’t stand hearing people say “but.” I do it myself sometimes and I hate it when I do it too. I suppose that’s why I hate it – they say the things we dislike in other people are the things we dislike about ourselves – that’s one time it fits to a tee.
“I want to go on vacation, but…” This is the one I hear most often that bothers me. Is there really any good time to go on vacation? There will always be something more important to do than taking time for ourselves. There will never be enough money to go. There will never be enough time. So do it! Stop saying “but”! Either that or stop saying you want to go!
Wow, there was a rant I wasn’t expecting.
A bit of this time I’m taking to write this post should be used to mention that the participation today, and in the last couple of weeks has been awesome! My promise to read and comment on each and every SoCS post is taking longer and longer to do, so I apologize if it’s next Friday by the time I get to your post, but I will get there. I hope there will not be a time when I can’t read everything, but at the same time I hope this prompt will spread further and wider so that many bloggers will have the opportunity to participate and, most of all, connect.
So, thank you!! To all who read the SoCS posts linked in the Friday prompt, to all of those who are part of this wonderful WordPress network, and most of all, to all of you who join me in Stream of Consciousness Saturday!
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November 14, 2014 at 11:17 am
I had an elementary school teacher who told us that there is not an animal called a “yeah-but.” She said it isn’t at all like a “Rab-bit” and that “yeah-but” was not a word at all, at least not in her class! 😉
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November 10, 2014 at 6:52 pm
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November 11, 2014 at 12:24 pm
Ha! Thanks for the giggle, Willow. 😀
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November 10, 2014 at 1:55 am
I wonder what would happen if we had to remove but from our vocabulary, even for a week. Or if buts weren’t butt-ish BUT only allowed to uplift and inspire. 🙂
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November 11, 2014 at 12:21 pm
I think that would be wonderful! 😀
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November 9, 2014 at 8:30 pm
But, I like listing my excuses 😛 Heh.
Buts don’t bother me, but negativity does, so it’s best to say, “One day I will get the vacation I’ve long desired.” (My-two-cents-Sunday)
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November 9, 2014 at 8:38 pm
And leave it at that. Exactly. 😀
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November 9, 2014 at 1:21 am
When I first started learning about unschooling, I needed to shift many ideas I’d held, and one of the best ways to do that is through shifting language.
That ‘but’ had to go!
I read somewhere to try shifting it to ‘and’.
So,
“I want to go on vacation, AND I’m not sure where I’ll find the time and money to do it.”
What happens is that ‘but’ eliminates…it’s the excuse not to be imaginative.
And, though, gets me focused on possibility. It says, “Here’s what’s in the way of what I want – now, how can we work around this?”
I loved your rant, and I love SoCS!
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November 9, 2014 at 7:47 pm
So true – using “and” does force you to come up with ideas.
Thanks so much, Shan 😀
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November 9, 2014 at 12:21 am
I know how you feel. There are certain words that can set us into motion.
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November 9, 2014 at 7:45 pm
Yep. 🙂
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November 8, 2014 at 11:30 pm
I rant and rave quite a bit, it really helps me to get stuff off my chest, probably bores everyone else-BUT-I don’t care. Or I should say, AND I don’t care lol!
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November 9, 2014 at 7:44 pm
Ha! You’re so funny, Mary. 😀
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November 8, 2014 at 8:25 pm
I love SOCS — no “buts” about it! 🙂
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November 8, 2014 at 8:37 pm
Ha! Thank you!! 😀
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November 8, 2014 at 5:30 pm
The fact that it takes longer makes me excited that there are so many others!
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November 9, 2014 at 7:43 pm
That’s true! 😀
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November 8, 2014 at 3:52 pm
Good point. I hate but, but I use it too opten.
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November 9, 2014 at 7:42 pm
Ha!
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November 8, 2014 at 1:53 pm
I’m with John on this one. Use “and” instead of “but”. I once read that whenever you use “but”in a sentence you negate everything before it. And it is surprising when you talk with people how defensive a “but” makes most people. And “but” seems, as John says, to close down a discussion (puts up inarguable walls) while “and” opens the discussion. Bang on.
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November 8, 2014 at 1:56 pm
It’s true – it does negate everything before it. Thanks for your input, Paul. Valuable indeed. 😀
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November 8, 2014 at 11:25 pm
That reminds me of a lesson I learned in acting class, when doing improv. using the words “yes, and” helps to keep the scene going, using the word “but” does not.
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November 9, 2014 at 7:44 pm
That’s such a great point! 🙂
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November 8, 2014 at 1:41 pm
Rant on but! First time I’ve heard one on that. I getcha on the but… . Vacation is something we all need and must take even if it’s to ancie motel with a swimming pool in your own town. that’s what my mom and dad used to do when they couldn’t afford a big vacation. Good points, Linda.
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November 8, 2014 at 1:44 pm
I’ve done that as well. A change of scenery, no matter how far away, is essential once in a while. 😀
Thanks for your comment, Leigh!
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November 8, 2014 at 1:39 pm
Ah too much participation. Not a bad problem to have. 🙂
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November 8, 2014 at 1:43 pm
Never too much participation – perhaps too much reading for one little ol’ me though! But I’m dedicated. 😀
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November 8, 2014 at 1:38 pm
Good to get it off your chest!
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November 8, 2014 at 1:39 pm
Thanks! 😀
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November 8, 2014 at 1:04 pm
Like you, I can’t stand the word but. There’s always going to be an excuse, so just do it. That’s what I say. Also, thank YOU for the prompts. They are always fun!
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November 8, 2014 at 1:06 pm
That’s what I say too! 🙂 Glad you’re enjoying the prompts. 😀
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November 8, 2014 at 12:47 pm
I read an article recently that said, rather than using “but,” use “and.” It expands the discussion. “I’d like to go on vacation, and I don’t have enough money” opens a set of possibilities: how can I get more money? I can’t afford to go on the vacation I want; I should think about doing a vacation I can afford. Etc.
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November 8, 2014 at 12:51 pm
That’s actually a great idea, John. I have to try to remember that next time I’m tempted to say “but.” 😀
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November 8, 2014 at 12:42 pm
Nothing wrong with a feisty bit of rant, Linda – clears the tubes, I always say!
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November 8, 2014 at 12:45 pm
I suppose it does! Thanks, Ali. 😀
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